Oy! Can't please everyone :) a little long

littleluckypenny · January 2012

So, I was showing my cool Aunt my wedding plans. I was on vacation and brought my planner with me (as my entire family/friends live out of state). First, she didn't like my cake design; she said it's too plain I happen to LOVE it (and so does FI) because of it's simplicity and it's elegance. NBD, it's not her wedding.

She also was extremely flabbergasted (and thought I was crazy) because I'm not having ushers at the ceremony or anyone showing guests to their table at the reception. (I'm having a seating display at the entrance with names and table #'s). Or that I'm not giving out ribbons with the date/event for pinning on the chest.

My argument is that people know where to sit at weddings; brides side on the left, groom on right. Or they can sit wherever they please, don't really care. Guests are going to a reception, not a restaurant where they have to check you in and show you to your table. And I don't feel those event/date ribbons are necessary.

Am I wrong for having faith in people that they can find their own seat at the church? Or read a giant 11X16 paper with their name/table # on it?

chelseakopperud · January 2012

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[QUOTE]So, I was showing my cool Aunt my wedding plans. I was on vacation and brought my planner with me (as my entire family/friends live out of state). First, she didn't like my cake design; she said it's too plain I happen to LOVE it (and so does FI) because of it's simplicity and it's elegance. NBD, it's not her wedding. <strong>She also was extremely flabbergasted (and thought I was crazy) because I'm not having ushers at the ceremony</strong> or anyone showing guests to their table at the reception. I'm having a seating display at the entrance with names and table #'s. My argument is that people know where to sit at weddings; brides side on the left, groom on right. Or they can sit where every, don't really care. Guests are going to a reception, not a restaurant where they have to check you in and show you to your table. Am I wrong for having faith in people that they can find their own seat at the church? Or read a giant 11X16 paper with their name/table # on it?
Posted by littleluckypenny[/QUOTE]

We arent having ushers either. My parents still think we need them. We refuse. Dont worry about it. People can and will find their own seats. We arent having designated sides either.... otherwise we would have to worry about the guest list being even. I think you are fine not having ushers.

KrisKenny · January 2012

I will be having the groomsmen be doing the "duties" of the ushers (i.e. seating people at ceremony). The only exception is that the Best Man will be down front with FI while people are being seated.

As for the reception seating, I think you're fine. I'll be doing basically the same as you.

sleblanc72 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Oy! Can't please everyone :) a little long : We arent having ushers either. My parents still think we need them. We refuse. Dont worry about it. People can and will find their own seats. We arent having designated sides either.... otherwise we would have to worry about the guest list being even. I think you are fine not having ushers.
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]
I agree with this. Some weddings I've been to the groomsmen have acted as partial ushers at the wedding but that was mainly to make sure that family was able to sit up front.

kelsey+brandon · January 2012

People will be able to find their own seats. We aren't having ushers either, but we are having the groomsmen escort people to their seats for the ceremony.

As for the reception...just think about what a traffic jam it'll be with everyone trying to be sat at the same time! At least during the ceremony people are arriving at different times.

I've also never heard of those pins with the date on them. Are those for all the guests?

I wouldn't worry about your aunt...it's your wedding, so do what you want! As for your cake, I love a simple cake. If you and your FI both love it, then nothing else matters. It's y'alls wedding, no one elses.

littleluckypenny · January 2012

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[QUOTE] I've also never heard of those pins with the date on them. Are those for all the guests? Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

Yeah, in my circle, every guest gets one at EVERY special event; milesone birthday bashes, christenings, weddings and funerals. I just think it's overkill (and an unneccessary expense) if I'm already having favors and programs with the event/date already on them.

And, we are also doing the usher/groomsman thing where the groomsmen (except the BM) will do some "light" escorting (for VIPs).

tgerl · January 2012

I'm doing everything the same as you are and also my cake is very simple. Don't worry about it - you definitely can't please everyone, so do what makes you happy and what you feel will work best.

acaponi87 · January 2012

Groomsmen can act like ushers. The real reason to have ushers IMO is to help old people get to their seats. Or if you have some crazy set up.

Also, to get people to sit down already when they are trying to start the ceremony!
But yes, people know how to sit.

kipnus · January 2012

I'm doing everything just like you're doing, OP. No ushers for the ceremony. Just a seating display at the entrance for the reception. Never heard of those ribbon things!

Melissa603 · January 2012

I have no idea what ribbons you are talking about?

doeie04 · January 2012

I think your aunt can quit complaining.

We aren't doing ushers or a seating chart. (We will have 3 extra tables incase people have larger groups and need more room.)

We are seating evryone in the center section,so there will not be sides. I think it is silly to sit seperate. They are all one big family now!

MMRoberts11 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Oy! Can't please everyone :) a little long : We arent having ushers either. My parents still think we need them. We refuse. Dont worry about it. People can and will find their own seats. We arent having designated sides either.... otherwise we would have to worry about the guest list being even. I think you are fine not having ushers.
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. We are not doing assigned seating at the ceremony. I'm just making a sign saying something about two families becoming one so sit where ever. For the reception, I'm just doing assigned tables.

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