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NFP support
I have been a lurker here for a while but after today, I feel like positive support is needed.
Fi and I are getting married in July and have done a great job timing our to do list. This month I decided to read TCOYF and start charting. So far my chart looks like a mess, but I feel like stress over my job and lack of sleep is causing that. Today during lunch one of my co workers who is Catholic made a comment about how the Catholic Church feels about BC and I mentioned NFP. My entire lunch group informed me of how it is an awful idea and doesn't work. I know better, but with charting going rough right now, it really stung. Did anyone else have a tough first chart or does anyone know anything about sleep deprivation and its effects on charting?
Fi and I are getting married in July and have done a great job timing our to do list. This month I decided to read TCOYF and start charting. So far my chart looks like a mess, but I feel like stress over my job and lack of sleep is causing that. Today during lunch one of my co workers who is Catholic made a comment about how the Catholic Church feels about BC and I mentioned NFP. My entire lunch group informed me of how it is an awful idea and doesn't work. I know better, but with charting going rough right now, it really stung. Did anyone else have a tough first chart or does anyone know anything about sleep deprivation and its effects on charting?
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Re: NFP support
I really recommend an instructor if you can find one. I'm assuming you're doing both temp and mucous? I'm doing Creighton, so mucous only, so I can't help you with temps.
But all the ladies here are super helpful, and I know someone here will have something for you. Just throwing my support out there! You'll figure it out, so don't worry about the negativity from others!
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If you are comfortable providing specifics, either we or the ladies at LtS, as Lala indicated, will happily help you out!
Also, unfortunately, lots of people "out there" don't understand/trust/believe NFP works. Your confidence in the method will come, and they will either come around or stop talking about it. Remember, no method of ABC is 100% effective either, and the effectiveness rates of both NFP and ABC are about the same.
[QUOTE]I have been a lurker here for a while but after today, I feel like positive support is needed. Fi and I are getting married in July and have done a great job timing our to do list. This month I decided to read TCOYF and start charting. So far my chart looks like a mess, but I feel like stress over my job and lack of sleep is causing that. Today during lunch one of my co workers who is Catholic made a comment about how the Catholic Church feels about BC and I mentioned NFP. My entire lunch group informed me of how it is an awful idea and doesn't work. I know better, but with charting going rough right now, it really stung. Did anyone else have a tough first chart or does anyone know anything about sleep deprivation and its effects on charting?
Posted by bezwedding[/QUOTE]
Doesn't work? They should take a peek in my uterus.
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stay the course, it works!!! you will always encounter naysayers, sadly, many of whom are catholic.
It is likely your coworkers are only aware of the "rhythm" method which is outdated and NOT one of the NFP methods currently in place. Just ignore them, or, when you feel confident about it - give them some more information.
[QUOTE]I would recommend the TCOYF program. It's just $40 and it takes all the guess work out of coverlines, recognizing peak days, and projecting the start of your next cycle after ovulation based on the average length of your luteal phase. It will also automatically recognize any temps that look out of whack and/or need to be adjusted due to waking up early/late.
Posted by MedStudent13[/QUOTE]
I am probably mistaken, but when I looked at the TCOYF charting software program (is it ovusoft or something?), I thought it had a disclaimer that it shouldn't be considered accurate for avoiding purposes? That it was really only meant for TTC. I don't know exactly why it wouldn't be accurate if all the information is there, but who knows.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: NFP support : I am probably mistaken, but when I looked at the TCOYF charting software program (is it ovusoft or something?), I thought it had a disclaimer that it shouldn't be considered accurate for avoiding purposes? That it was really only meant for TTC. I don't know exactly why it wouldn't be accurate if all the information is there, but who knows.
Posted by TeaForMe[/QUOTE]
<div>Yeah, it's also called OvuSoft and it does have a disclaimer on it, but so does my Basal Thermometer. They have to put that on there to avoid getting sued probably... Especially because there is no explanation of the rules on the program itself. However, there are plenty of people on the TCOYF forums that use it to TTA, one poster even admitted to not even owning a copy of the book. </div>
We have been TTC and it has been pretty frustrating b/c we haven't been able to conceive just yet. My doctor actually recommended I start charting b/c he thinks I am not ovulating. He wanted to throw me on Clomid and my H said no. So after talking to a friend at church, she recommended an NFP only doctor (the only one in central Ohio) and I go to see him (with my charts in hand) in a little over a month. We pray he gets to the root of the problem and won't just throw me on meds like my ob/gyn wanted to do. He is also an ob/gyn and I may end up switching doctors if I like him. I guess he is popular b/c his waiting list is pretty long.
[QUOTE]I actually just started charting about a month ago after going off of the pill in July. My chart is all wonky and I am still getting the hang of it. I am trying to educate H as well. I am going to buy TCOYF this weekend and start reading it. We have been TTC and it has been pretty frustrating b/c we haven't been able to conceive just yet. My doctor actually recommended I start charting b/c he thinks I am not ovulating. He wanted to throw me on Clomid and my H said no. So after talking to a friend at church, she recommended an NFP only doctor (the only one in central Ohio) and I go to see him (with my charts in hand) in a little over a month. We pray he gets to the root of the problem and won't just throw me on meds like my ob/gyn wanted to do. He is also an ob/gyn and I may end up switching doctors if I like him. I guess he is popular b/c his waiting list is pretty long.
Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]
I think you're going to see a world of difference with the new doc. For example, while there is nothing morally wrong with Clomid, after 6 months of TTC coming off the pill is not the time. Your cycles may well still be wonky just from coming off the pill -- it can take awhile. Plus, based on what you've written, there is no indication of a basis to say that you're not ovulating.
Additionally, since he's an NFP-only doctor, there is no way he's going to prescribe the pill, especially if you are TTC, but likely at all. He'll probably look at/for obvious issues, hormone levels, etc. to make sure things are cycling correctly (or moving toward it) and go from there.
It realllllly bugs me when doctors (or anyone really) claim that the pill helps to regulate your cycle, when all it does is mask whatever cycle you body is doing naturally (among other things). And this is coming from someone who is generally verrrrrry forgiving of all that doctors don't know (because I know that they simply are not taught otherwise, most of the time) about NFP, fertility, etc.
Please keep us posted on how things go! *hugs* and *prayers*