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September 2012 Weddings

MIL Vent

To start off please understand that I am having a small wedding with 70 people, the only person whom I am related to that will be there is my 16 year old sister as i don't speak with my family for personal reasons. My father in law will be walking me down the aisle and I have zero issues with that (i very much appreicate it).

My mother in law is a kind of passive yet controlling person, and I honestly love her. I understand this is my wedding and that you want to check with me before you do things but the issue here is flowers. All of the flowers within the wedding are silk except for the centerpieces, she has asked me 3 times now what she should do for flowers for her and my FIL, answer has been and will always be that they only have to match eachother so whatever they want.

She also gave me a bunny statue and ceramic birds to keep from my bridal shower and keeps bring it up to include them in the wedding reception somehow. It just seems like everyday she comes up with random questions to ask about things i've never even mentioned.

Today she asked what about flowers for my Mr's grandmothers only because her sister went to a wedding recently and saw they had some there. As i said before I have 1 person going to my wedding who i'm related to and she is not in the wedding for finacial reasons I want to have a wedding for me not a display of how big mr's family is.

Idk if i'm over reacting but i'm really trying to keep everything together and today for whatever reason i feel a little over the edge.

thank you for listening!
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Re: MIL Vent

  • MY FMIL is the same way. My FI is so used to it that he doesn't even notice the 80 billion questions she's throwing my way. I finally had enough one day and snapped at my FMIL. I totally regret that now (aapologized pretty quickly), so don't do that. They really do mena well in the end. Turn off your phone and take a "break" from her for 24 hours. Hopefully the space will help.
  • We're happy to let you blow off some steam (we all need to), but maybe you are overreacting a tad much. Your FI's family sound like nice people in general, and as PP said, it seems like she only wants to help. Maybe she's even more emotionally invested in this event than you think, and that's why she's acting a little weird. But I definitely understand how it could get to you!
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