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Seating chart

andamuandamu
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So my mom wants to mix people up when it comes time for a seating chart - FI's parents' friends with her friends, some of my aunts and uncles with his aunts and uncles, his cousins with some of our friends and coworkers, etc.

Fi swears that this will not work, even if we use escort cards, and we will end up with a half-Indian, half-white dining room regardless.

Have you successfully used escort cards at an Indian wedding?  Did you put people who already know each other together (only) or did you mix things up a bit?
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Re: Seating chart

  • temurlangtemurlang member
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    edited December 2011
    This was a problem we faced.  We did not want it to look like an "us" and "them" situation, but at the same time we wanted everyone to enjoy themselves with some people they know.

    We had one advantage which was there were a lot of people who were neither white nor Indian, but I still found that if I grouped people by "my classmates" or "DH's co-workers" we would end up with segregated tables.  And it might be even worse to have "Asian" and "Hispanic" tables along with the "white" and "Indian" ones!

    Our tables seated 8-10, and I tried to arrange it so that people knew some of the table but could meet some new people too.  I kept in mind things like age or if they might have a common conversation topic.  It's also good too keep in mind that your lesbian sculptor friend and your highly religious cousin may not hit it off.

    The escort card system was mostly successful.  I let the reception coordinator and an usher have a copy of the seating chart in case anyone couldn't find a seat because theirs got taken.  A couple of DH's friends did ignore the escort cards, but I honestly think it had nothing to do with ethnicity and more with a sense of entitlement.

    I have also attended a wedding that was mostly Indian and had escort cards and it seemed  to work just as well as the next wedding.  There are always a couple of people who think they are exempt from the seating assignments.
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    We used escort cards without a problem, but then again we didn't try to mix up the groups of people like you want to. We went with logical groupings - his family at a table, my family at other tables, college friends together, work friends together, etc.

    Actually, I think there were one or two tables where it was a mix of Indian and non-Indian friends of my dad's that sat together, but they had a common background in that they were either his doctors or dialysis nurses, hah!

    I think the escort cards will work and you have a better chance of people sticking to the tables if you put like minded or people with similiar backgrounds together.
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  • DFWIndianDFWIndian
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    edited December 2011
    My friend did this at her wedding and for the ones who didn't mind sitting next those people it was fine. But we were at the "random" table I guess and half our table sat with other people. They were sweet and seperated my ex-FI and me, but he ended up crashing my table any ways. People were all over the place, but trust me the bride and groom didn't even notice.
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  • kpwedkkkpwedkk member
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    edited December 2011
    We had the same thing as well, and we ended up seating people with folkss they were most familiar with. 

    Seriously I think that seperating races isn't going to cross your guest's mind at all!

    They will think of it as a simple thoughtful gesture to seat them with someone familiar, or something in common.

    Your guests are there to bless you and your husband to be, reunionize, and most of all, have a good time!

    Don't worry, be happy!

    "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
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