Pet peeves and things that don't work out as planned

Lasairiona · April 2010

What types of things bother you at weddings? Would you still attend a wedding if you were a guest at a wedding that included any of those things, simply because you are there to celebrate with the couple or would you go so far as to leave early because of it, the couple be damned?

Also, what type of things have you seen done that did not work out at all as they were intended to and are better left to theory?

tommyandy · April 2010

Spending so much money on one aspect of a wedding that it affects the rest of the wedding bugs the pewp out of me. When I see a bride in a 1.5k or higher dress or sit at a table with $300.00 centerpieces while I drink at the cash bar & eat cheap food it makes me mad.

That's cheap as in bad quality, not cheap as in thrifty.

Bridezillas bugs me too. I've tried to watch the show, but instead of laughing at them, all I can do is feel sorry for the groom. I also think it's a shame nobody loves them enough to smack 'em.

psichick · April 2010

things that are annoying....

-cash bars. i don't bring cash with me to a wedding.
-dry receptions. yes i know you don't HAVE to have alcohol but it sure is a hell of a lot more fun when you do.
-dollar dances/anything cash related
-those stupid dances like the chicken dance or the electric slide
-couples who make the bridal party do a coordinated dance
-couples who do a coordinated dance. it's old and wasn't even good the first time it happened.
-pets in a wedding. i love my animals, but they stay home for weddings.
-overly "themed" weddings - like it's the renaissance fair or comic-con or something
- baby pink. it makes me think that the bride doesn't care what the groom thinks or wants, as pretty much no guy is going to say "i really want a pink wedding"

LisaTyler1984 · April 2010

I would never leave over something that is not my style at a wedding. Nothing really "peeves" me either... why would someone else's wedding make me upset or mad? I've never seen a cash bar before and that's the only thing that would make me go "wtf? this is rude." Other than that, I do have things that I don't like at weddings and wouldn't do at my own...

1.Buffets- I am doing a mix of action stations for a cocktail style party, but I think laying out all the food on one table and have people lining up and being called by table number to get their food... well, to be frank, it reminds me of a soup kitchen. I think buffets look cheap (just my opinion). I also hate the people who rush to be first in line or wait at the end of a long line... it just seems uncouth. I think "man, that person must be reeeeally hungry"

2. Hors d'oeuvres that look like they came out of the grocer's freezer section. For example, pizza bagels, everything covered in phyllo dough (pigs in a blanket are delicious though- one exception), those horrible looking mini quiches in the fatty crust... ugh.

3. Brides holding beer bottles- looks so trashy!

4.I've been to one wedding, when I was a kid, in a firehouse for some strange, country livin cousins and that was- um- different.

That's all that I could thing of, but these things were more NMS than things that make me angry or want to leave.

baystateapple · April 2010

- Cash bars
- Dollar dance
- Four-hour gaps (I don't care if you're Catholic, I'm Catholic, too)
- Cake smashes
- Paying for centerpieces (yes, I saw this once)
- Clinking glasses to make the couple kiss
- Honeymoon registries
- Cloned bridesmaids (same dresses are okay, same hairdos, jewelry, and shoes look really creepy)
- The Chicken Dance

ETA: But I wouldn't leave over any of these things. Just some side-eye.

SuMmErKuTiE · April 2010

The only things that really bother me at weddings but I don't leave over are cash bars and the clinking of the glasses to make the bride and groom kiss. Thankfully I've only been to one wedding that was a cash bar, but it just wasn't as much fun and everyone was complaining that they had to pay for their drinks.

antimony · April 2010

I'm probably going to be in the minority here, but: No-kids weddings! It's supposed to be a family celebration! I'm not going to leave or not attend over this (and even if/when I have kids, I'll find a sitter), but I just Don't Get It why people wouldn't want their whole family there.

The whole idea of having "wedding colors" and everything has to be picked to match also kind of makes me LOL. The closest thing I have to a "wedding color" is that my dress isn't all-white, but I'm not matching the cake or the linens or anything. It will all look nice together, but it's not Decoration Theme Park, Wedding Edition.

Oh, and bad booze. I don't mind cash bars, or wine/beer only, or dry weddings, but weddings with really crappy hard liquor make me sad. Because I order something and then have to try to find a way to surreptitiously ditch it, because I have functioning taste buds and am having a drink because I like them, not because I need to get plastered on someone else's dime.

pea1028 · April 2010

Cheap or not enough food. I went to a wedding that had pasta salad and salmon as the main courses. We went to McDonalds.
Nothing but alcohol and unsweet tea. We went to a wedding that had beer, margaritas, and unsweet tea. I had to pay for a can of coke. I am not saying you should buy out the coke plant, but a selection would be nice.
Waiting for everything. Food, cake, everything. I do not want to wait an hour and half to eat. Put out some nuts at least!!!
Bridal party members changing into their hoochy outfits at the reception. I understand the dress is a little uncomfortable, but that doesn't mean you can put on you cut off jean skirt and skimpy top and try and hook up with a grooms man. I saw it happen and its in the photos. She is in the background and I feel so bad for the bride because it was a nice wedding.

I wouldn't leave, but I have made an effort to make sure my guests will have good food to eat and plenty of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks!!

jessicarabbit501 · April 2010

This isn't really reception related but it annoys me all the same:

Married. on. MySpace.

Ugh!

BrideofBigSur · April 2010

head tables
restrictive menu - SIL's was all vegan-only indian food
needlessly showy/expensive weddings
enormous guest lists
forced toasts. My poor FI isn't a public speaker and had to do a toast at his sister's (it's just the two of them, no other siblings.) He stumbled through the whole thing, and clearly wanted to crawl under a rock. Every guest knew it, which made it even worse.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

The only thing that would make me leave early would be a HUGE breech of etiquette, like making the guests pay for food or something. If there was next to nothing I could eat (I'm a vegetarian) I might have to leave early out of necessity because I get sick if I don't eat for a long time.

Everything else would just elicit an eyeroll.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_pet-peeves-things-dont-work-out-planned?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:e7f103da-fb11-49ab-b4a3-4c15db5f61bePost:4990ce4a-7f9f-4468-b4e9-3ab20a8a20f8">Re: Pet peeves and things that don't work out as planned</a>:
[QUOTE]things that are annoying.... -cash bars. i don't bring cash with me to a wedding. -dry receptions. yes i know you don't HAVE to have alcohol but it sure is a hell of a lot more fun when you do. -dollar dances/anything cash related -those stupid dances like the chicken dance or the electric slide -couples who make the bridal party do a coordinated dance -couples who do a coordinated dance. it's old and wasn't even good the first time it happened. -pets in a wedding. i love my animals, but they stay home for weddings. -overly "themed" weddings - like it's the renaissance fair or comic-con or something - baby pink. it makes me think that the bride doesn't care what the groom thinks or wants, as pretty much no guy is going to say "i really want a pink wedding"
Posted by psichick[/QUOTE]

I have to agree with all of these. And I've never actually SEEN a dollar dance, but that would annoy me too.

AshleyNC2010 · April 2010

ok its making me crazy what is a dollar dance????????????

and I hate tinking glasses!!!!!!!!!!!!

clearlybrunette · April 2010

mine is children/babies crying during a ceremony. have a nursery for small children if you choose to have them there or if they start to act fussy please leave the ceremony dont stay there with the screaming child disrupting the whole thing!

CA2MT4EveR · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_pet-peeves-things-dont-work-out-planned?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:e7f103da-fb11-49ab-b4a3-4c15db5f61bePost:a9c8875a-9115-48d2-9e5f-d135dfa3db2b">Re: Pet peeves and things that don't work out as planned</a>:
[QUOTE]ok its making me crazy what is a dollar dance???????????? and I hate tinking glasses!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by AshleyNC2010[/QUOTE]

Please stop with the overabundance of punctuation.
A dollar dance is where guests line up and "pay" a dollar or their choice amount to dance with the bride or groom for a minute or two.

AshleyNC2010 · April 2010

ok whatever about the puctuation sorry... but anyways... that is the most rediculas thing ever. I have never heard of it before. thank you for answering it was starting to bug me alot.

lisaD26 · April 2010

"Place settings for dead people"

wow.

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