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Whose Address on Envelopes? Please help!

SAHM711SAHM711
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Not quite sure how to handle this.  I made our invitations, and we are having them printed.  The printer will put the return address on the outer envelope and the response card envelope.  Even though my parents are paying for most of the wedding, the invite reads My Name and FI's Name together with their parents (all 3 sets of parents listed as his are divorced) since we are 40 and 44.  My mother says that since they are paying for most of the wedding, their address should go on the envelopes.  I see her point, and I know that's how it's traditionally done, and my reason is stupid, but I kinda want the excitement of coming home and seeing responses in my mailbox.  I am horribly off etiquette here?  Should I put my parents address on the envelopes or mine?  She definitely has more time to organize everything than I do.  Please help!
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Re: Whose Address on Envelopes? Please help!

  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    It depends on where you would want them to go should they be returned. For us, our return address was on the outer envelope and the rsvp envelopes. FI's mom is handling the rsvp's, so FIL's names were on the "to" part of the rsvps if this makes sense to you. I know a lot of the girls on my local board are excited to get the mail, now, too, but for me, I told FMIL, if you are willing to do it, great. I look at it as one less thing to worry about esp since we have enough to do already. HTH
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    If mom is collecting replies and entering the responses in a spreadsheet, then the return address should be hers.  If you are in charge of keeping on top of the count, then the address should be yours. 

    I cannot think of anything that might become more irritating if the replies (picture the Three Stooges!) were mailed to one address then needed to be taken somewhere else for counting ... ich!

    Best of luck!
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  • saracksarack
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    i agree with lisa50. if you are taking care of the rsvps and keeping track of everytihng, they should be sent to you..
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  • ellen73ellen73
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    I am putting my mom's name on the RSVPs b/c I will be moving right after the wedding.  I am going to spend the week prior to the wedding at my parents house- and then moving to another state right after the wedding.   This way no one will send gifts to my place when I may or may not be there!
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  • detailsBYoksanaDOTcomdetailsBYoksanaDOTcom
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    The etiquette does call for whoever is hosting (paying) for the wedding to receive the RSVP's, but there are exceptions. If it is inconvenient (like you live in NY and your parents live in LA) or if you and your future husband are living together, you can have the RSVP's go to your address.  

    Whichever address you use, be sure to let your guest know where the gifts should go by utilizing your website- a lot of times guests think that the return address is where the gifts should go, so, just keep that in mind and find a compromise that works for everybody. 

    Good luck!    
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