T&Ps please - semi long
LizzyTish88
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Hi Ladies. I know I haven’t been around much at all lately, and I come back with a heavy heart. Monday night one of my two dogs got hit and killed by a car. It was dark, raining, and she ran out in the road. This has shaken my entire family. My mom was alone and both my stepfather and I rushed home. We sat in silence and crying for 3 hours.
Our other dog, who was the sister of the one who got hit, doesn’t know what to do with herself. She didn’t know who to comfort and where to go. We brought her out to her sister so she would know what was going on, and she sniffed her, but I don’t know if she really could tell. This morning when I got home from BF’s, she was excited to see me, but didn’t run to my car like she usually would, and went right over to our other dogs bowl and sniffed around like she was looking for her.
So if you all wouldn’t mind can you please send over any extra thoughts and prayers that you have. My whole family is a wreck. My poor parents are playing the blame game with each other and its just so heartbreaking. I honestly can’t wrap my head around the whole thing. I feel like my head is in the clouds and I feel like I am just going through the motions. I don’t know what I am going to do without her and what our other dog is going to do. She was my grandfather’s dog, and when he passed she went through a depression that she finally got out of, and we are afraid she is going to fall back into it. This just sucks.
These are my girls. The brown one is Bailey, she is the one we lost. The Black one is Dixie, she is the sister that we are worried about now.
Re: T&Ps please - semi long
Somebody once said, it's the soul that matters. Baby who can really tell, when two hearts belong so well?
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I have no doubt that doggies go to heaven...(Did I tell you about the story of when my grandmother died? The day she died- she woke up- looked into the sky and said, "They're throwing me a party! And all the animals are there!)
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I'll burn some incense for your doggie and family when I get home from work tonight.
I keep trying so hard to hold back my tears at work. I just can't find a place in my head for this to go. We have had to put a dog down before, and a cat down, but I knew they were suffering and in pain, so it was for the best. This was in NO way to best thing for her. She was just a puppy. She had to have been so scared.
As for the getting another dog, it won't happen. We had to put down a dog before we got Bailey and my stepfather did not want another dog after that. My mom and I convinced him to get Bailey and he went along but not really willing. After Monday night, he told Dixie that she was the last of the Mohegan's and that he would never own another dog after her. He doesn't want to have to feel this pain again.
BF and I both love animals and will get them eventually. I am not going to let this put me off from getting another pet down the road, I just know my family won't. BF is being so supportive through this all but I still just want to hide.
I feel like I am in a living nightmare and I just want to wake up!!
Married! May 27th, 2012
[QUOTE]<3 I'm so sorry this happened to you guys. My advice for you: When our family cat passed away earlier this year, I didn't get a whole lot of comfort from my friends of family. I think they thought that since I hadn't shared a home with the cat since before college, I shouldn't be so upset. To me, she was still my baby and having my feelings invalidated didn't help at all. <strong>The one thing I did find comfort in was (and I know that this sounds strange) reading online info about the stages of grief. It helped me to know that what I was feeling was normal and healthy and that I would get through it. I could literally feel the weight lifting off my chest while I read. </strong>Maybe it could help you, too? My advice for Dixie: Just keep her company as much as you guys possibly can. You did the right thing by showing her Bailey's body, so she just needs time to process it now. Give her long petting sessions and take on extra walks. If you go anywhere in the car for a quick errand, take her with you. Basically, anytime she spends not alone will help. Also, if you have anything that smells like Bailey (old toys or a dog bed, etc) leave it out for Dixie. Also, when enough time has passed, you guys may want to consider getting another dog. I know it's impossible to think about right now, and there's no hurry, but dogs are companion animals and it would probably help Dixie a lot to get a new friend.
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This. Have you ever heard of the book Surviving the Loss of a Love? It is amazing. It talks about coping with the loss of everything, from a person to a pet to an era of your life that you have to move on from. It tells you than any kind of loss you are experiencing is valid and that you are completely okay to feel how you feel. I've revisited the book many times, after breakups, when I graduated college, and when my parent's cat died, and it offered the same amount of comfort every time.