Is this tacky?

npott044 · July 2011

We wanted to have a very informal engagement party in the backyard. We were thinking of doing a big cook out.. We would supply drinks, meat, plates, etc. Would it be tacky to ask guests(all close family and friends) to bring a dish to pass?

swtheart1685 · July 2011

Typically an egagement party is thrown by a friend or family member of the bride and groom as a kind gesture or gift to the bride and groom. It is not typically hosted by the bride and groom themselves. Since you are hosting your own party, guests may find it tacky to have to bring a dish.

I think it would really depend on your family and friends. Some people love bringing a dish to pass, others think of it as a chore. It may work better if you provided the majority of the food/drink and then worded the invite to say "We will supply the drinks, meat, *side dish*, and *dessert*. Feel free to bring a dish your family would enjoy and/or you would like to share with others."

npott044 · July 2011

Thanks! Our parents are giving it for us just at our house because we have a bigger yard.

Wiscisbliss · July 2011

I don't think it is tacky, but I wouldn't call it an engagement party (or expect gifts).

Tiger_Tammer · July 2011

I don't think it's tacky at all. Most backyard parties, everybody close usually offers to bring something anyway...at least thats what we do up here in Sheboygan.

jonesma204 · July 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_wisconsin_this-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:118Discussion:7bc601c9-6533-4e21-9205-e43e6e6807b0Post:9bc283fb-78d7-47a8-816c-29506e46fbe1">Re: Is this tacky?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think it is tacky, but I wouldn't call it an engagement party (or expect gifts).
Posted by Wiscisbliss[/QUOTE]

agreed.

npott044 · July 2011

I do not want gifts just my close friends and family to all be together for the day!

KatieD212 · July 2011

We had an 'engagement party' for ourselves as well, just had a bon fire and some food...didnt expect anything. One friend brought us a card with cash. we didnt care, just wanted an excuse to have people over

msteph82 · July 2011

I wouldn't ASK, but if someone offers, I'd say "we'll have plenty of food, but would love it if you brought a dish to pass" and leave it at that.

Really though, I wouldn't ask anyone to bring anything. But that's just me.

kagarvin · July 2011

Not tacky at all! We are actually doing the same thing for our rehearsal dinner. We, along with our parents, are having a big backyard dinner/grill-out and a fire. It'll be a lot less stress (and money!) It depends on your style I suppose. We are very laid back and our friends are the same so it fits us perfectly. Good luck!! : )

elysewoj · August 2011

I don't think it's tacky. My parents are having an "cook out" engagement party for us as well. My mom put on the invite no presents please, and is asking a few people in my family to bring food. My family is super laid back, but I don't think she would have asked for anyone to bring anything if it were more formal... Hope that helps!

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