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October 2012 Weddings

awwww, crap

Well I knew at some point I would hit a snag! 
I spoke with my gma in Iowa and she has offered to help my bridesmaids throw my shower next month (probably pay for a lot of it).  She also has contributed to our wedding.  She sprung this on me though.  I told her that I had sent one of the BM's the addresses for the invites and she said she already told MOH to add her sister, D.  I am not inviting D to the wedding.  It is half way across the country and I haven't seen D in probably 10 years, plus we are having a relatively small wedding with around 140 invited and my family already outnumbers his by a bit.  He isn't inviting his cousins because he isn't close with them, whereas I am inviting all 6 of mine.  I don't really know what to do.  Yes, I probably should add them because now gma is breaking ettiquette and inviting non-invited guests to a wedding event, but gma also has contributed $....I just don't want to get on a slippery slope of having a bunch of invite requests this late in the game, especially ones that I'm not that close with.  Chances are D and her husband wouldn't be able to travel for it, but still.  What do you girls think?  I'm almost tempted to turn a blind eye to it, but I know that would be wrong.  Have you encountered this yet?

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Re: awwww, crap

  • edited July 2012
    Since it's still so far out from the wedding, I would invite them. Two more guests probably won't break the bank. Even though you aren't the one who broke etiquette, you should still fix it.
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  • Agree with Brittney.  Maybe ask your gma to tell you who she would like before she tells your BM to invite them...?
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  • My grandma lives in a tiny "town" with about 6 houses. There are a few ladies in the town that she is close with, that were around my mom as she was growing up, but that neither my mom or I are close to. The only reason we see these people is because they pop into grandmas when we are there visiting too. My grandma invited them to the shower she was hosting last Saturday. They are not invited to the wedding. My grandma knew that and chose to invite them anyway. I don't think it's a shock to any of these people that they aren't invited to the wedding. They chose to go to the shower and give a gift. I am writing them a thank you note of course, but I am not inviting them to the wedding just because grandma felt the need to invite them to the shower. I know it's against ettiquette but it wasn't worth fighting grandma.
  • Darn, that is what I was afraid of.  Ugg, well I need to talk to FI about this, but yes, I think I will have to invite them and secretly hope they can't make it.  That sounds mean, but I feel like this is a little late to spring this invite....

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