I live in Texas but all my family's in NY. We want to do a Dec 11  wedding for about 50 people on a budget of $10K in NY. Is this possible  to accomplish this including photographer, video, food, drinks, dj,  flowers, etc? I am not picky about flowers or centerpieces and fine with  a cocktail party type of reception and even scaling down to wine &  beer if necessary. Also want a cucpake tower as a birthday cake vs a  wedding cake. (It's also my 40th birthday!) 
Can  anyone recommend venues and/or vendors? Thanks!