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klobb1507klobb1507 member
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I haven't written in this forum yet. We moved our wedding from September 22 2012 up to June 2 2012 about a month ago. We changed around our wedding ideas because my father is very sick and it was more likley for him to be here another 4 months rather than 8.  He has been in and out of the hospital for months but everything was okay. He was stable and things were looking up. Then out of the blue on Sunday he was so severe that he ended up in ICU, quickly deteriorating. He now is in a hospice facility where he is sleeping peacefully and breathing his last breaths.
I can't even begin to explain the impact this is having on me and the planning of my wedding, less than 4 months away. That day, that perfect day is now going to be missing a huge piece. I would like some ideas on how to remember him at my wedding without making it too sad. I want to try to enjoy my day but also want to include him in some way. Thanks for your help.
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  • BrooklynNoviaBrooklynNovia member
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    I am so sorry to hear this!  I don't know you, but I'm thinking and praying for you and your father.

    There are so many ways to remember people you loved.  In our wedding, we're leaving empty chairs at the end of the first row with flowers on the seats.
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  • goodine11goodine11
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    Do you already have your colors? If not do you know what his favorite color is? Could that color be incorporated in you wedding?
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  • sweetcanadian1979sweetcanadian1979
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    Sorry to hear about your father *hugs*

    What about a bouquet brooch? They have some nice ones you can put a little pic into & it is nice & private. A moment you can share with him without sharing with all your guests.
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  • amyl9amyl9
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    Oh hunny....I don't have any great ideas but *hugs* Prayers that you and your family will find peace.

    I do like Brooklyn's idea though. I've seen memorial candles and pictures too.
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  • eltar08eltar08 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_distraught?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:1a92e0e6-5746-421e-b445-c94715c76620Post:8a4f9779-926a-44c1-b12f-ffb4752693c4">Re: distraught</a>:
    [QUOTE]Sorry to hear about your father *hugs* What about a bouquet brooch? They have some nice ones you can put a little pic into & it is nice & private. A moment you can share with him without sharing with all your guests.
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    This is what I am doing for my mom.  What about one of his handkerchiefs?  Maybe you could sew a piece into your dress so he's right with you?  Or use it or a tie/pocket square to wrap your bouquet?

    I am so sorry...I know it isn't easy, especially when coupled with your wedding :(
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  • doeie04doeie04 member
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    I'm sorry you are going through this! I will be thinking of your family.

    I think the above ideas are great.
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  • MMRoberts11MMRoberts11 member
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    I'm sorry to hear about your dad.  Hospice care is a wonderful thing (my FI's grandpa is in hospice care right now too).

    Beyond what others have suggested, I would just like to add that no matter what you do, I would do something small and personal.  With his potential death being so close to the wedding it may still be a tough subject for a number of people in your family. 

    Are you doing a memorial component for others? If so, you could add him to it. 
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  • noisulli22noisulli22
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    You have my deepest sympathy, I'm truly sorry to hear about this. Have you thought about playing some of his favorite songs? Love songs, or funny songs? 
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  • LindzMarie19LindzMarie19
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    I'm so sorry you are going through this, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    My FI and i are thinking of having a floral arrangement at the front of the church with a little write up in the program so everyone knows what it is for. This being said, the folks we are doing this in honor of have been passed away for some time now.

    Since this is potentially going to be close to your wedding date, i agree more with the pendant on the bouquet idea since its very personal. But only you will know what the right way is for you to honor your father. take time to think about the situation and how you might fill with the more public memorial ideas, which are also very good ideas as well.
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  • littleluckypennylittleluckypenny member
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    Sorry to hear what you're going through.  If there is anything we can do let us know.
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  • Elizabeth80Elizabeth80 member
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    So sorry and definitely praying for you. I love the candle idea and the rose on the seats (though for me that would be really hard with things being so recent).

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  • HilraythebrideHilraythebride member
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    So sorry to hear about this!! T and P your way!!

    All the ladies have pretty much covered all the ways to honor him at your wedding, I am doing a bouquet charm with a picture of my grandpa so he will be there and can be in the pictures.
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  • kimiandgarykimiandgary
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    Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad.
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  • nurse2be2011nurse2be2011
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    T and P's your way and for your dad. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. 

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  • kaitlyn142kaitlyn142 member
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    I am so sorry. I can't imagine going through that.*hugs*
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  • edw7479edw7479
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    I am so, so very sorry you and your family are going through this. Big hugs and prayers headed your way.

    As for a memorial, I think the ladies above have mentioned many great ideas. I will have a small picture of my father in my bouquet.
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  • klobb1507klobb1507 member
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    Thanks everyone. I like all of ur ideas. With it being very close to the wedding i am thinking the bouquet idea is the best way to go. This way he also is "walking me down the aisle" thanks again.
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  • sweet_melissa81sweet_melissa81
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    My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. I watched a video about a bride who lost her father and she pinned a locket with a picture of him in her crinoline, so that she would still be able to dance with her father on her wedding day. Is was a very personal and intimite way of memorializing her father. Just know that even though he may not physically be there with you that he will always be with you.

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