My wedding is this September in upstate NY near my hometown and we're inviting 200+ people. I'm from a small town and have lived there my entire life, so I'm inviting a good number of people I grew up with, as well as family and close friends.
After college, my fiance and I moved to NYC together and we've been here for about 4 years. Although we have a lot of friends in the city, we're not inviting that many to our actual wedding, because we already have such a huge guest list.
I wanted to have a summer pool party/BBQ in August. This is something we do every summer w/ our friends in the city and we usually invite 50+ people (because there are certain groups that just go together, i.e. dozens of coworkers, people we've met in our apt building, acquaintances from college that we see at alumni events, etc...)
Not all of the people I would want to invite to our pool party are actually invited to the wedding - would it be rude to mention the wedding in the party invite?? I was going to say something like, "although everyone can't be there on the big day, we would love to celebrate with our friends in the city before we tie the knot! " Would that just be rubbing it in?? Has anyone else faced a similar problem. I feel like all of my friends in the city come in big groups!