What is wrong with people?

snuff9861 · August 2012

I seriously made my rsvp's idiot proof and yet people still don't comprehend how to do it properly. I addressed envelopes to people who were invited by name and put number of seats have been reserved in your honour. And I know I'm not the only person who has ever experienced it but that doesn't make any less frustrating.

I had FMIL tell me her brother will be coming (awesome he was invited) but he will be bringing his granddaughter ( who was not invited). I haven't said anything to FMIL because I have yet to tell FI and really its his family to deal with.

Today I had the parents of one of the groomsman rsvp yes, which I found odd since one of them will be in China. So I contact the GM in question and he says he put down two (he filled in his parents card for them) as his cousin (also invited) will that way be able to bring a date. I say we did not add plus 1s for single guests. He said he was aware and that that was hurtful. Why should Fi and I be the only ones allowed to find happiness? Why can't his cousin bring a one night stand (I kid you not those were his words). Again Fi will be getting an earful when I get home. People suck.

samanthaeisner · August 2012

If it makes you feel any better, my friend is getting married on Friday and a friend of her mother RSVP'd plus 5.

mrshall1027 · August 2012

Jeez, that's pretty ridiculous! Good luck with figuring all of that out. This is making me nervous for when we start getting RSVP's back.

SyAmaya · August 2012

*Sigh* I sent my invites out last week... I can't wait to experience this kind of Joy...

Much like you, I've decided I'm going to let my FI, the muscle in this relationship handle these ppl that think it ok to add to our already outrageous budget.
Good luck!

bkhokie27 · August 2012

Yikes! Posts like these make me extremely nervous. FI and I are having an extremely small wedding and we're topping it off at 25 people. That number includes us and our vendors! My side of the guest list know we have a small guest list and who's invited and who's not. I'm worried that FI's side will start inviting random people, but he's going to have to deal with that mess if that's the case!

music11 · August 2012

I'm so sorry! Sometimes people can be really rude. I am keeping my fingers crossed that we avoid this, but it definitely makes me nervous.

[Deleted User] · August 2012

I'm pretty sure one of my friends is bringing his 3 kids that were NOT invited

KiaSoulmates2010 · August 2012

That is just crazy!!! I just mailed my invites yesterday and though I'm going to be stalking my mailbox I'm curious about these 1 or 10000 add ons. Since I have more people invited to our wedding I'm going to have to be the muscle! Lol. Im just going to explain that I have a tight budget and space/ seating limitations at my venue! Hopefully I don't have to though!

KittennDave · August 2012

Sorry to hear! We wrote on ours 'please initial your entree selection' and so far only 3/8 responses have done so! Also in order for someone to attend they need to be driven by someone, so mom invited them, LOL. I really don't mind at all (since it's not like it's an extra person as there will be at least 3-4 people who've said they won't be able to attend when I've told them about it in person), but it was also a little shocking. :-)

ktelizabeth86 · August 2012

I haven't had that yet, but I have had two RSVPs where the people wrote who they want to be seated with.

Ok - not a huge deal and I would have sat them together anyway, but seriously people? It's a wedding. You sit where we put you. It's not like you aren't allowed to move from that seat the whole night.

KittennDave · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_what-is-wrong-with-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:492e1026-20ff-468c-b812-8d9ec2e59694Post:7f932c03-b4cf-4836-b4e7-a27b1d03cb16">Re: What is wrong with people?</a>:
[QUOTE]I haven't had that yet, but I have had two RSVPs where the people wrote who they want to be seated with. Ok - not a huge deal and I would have sat them together anyway, but seriously people? It's a wedding. You sit where we put you. It's not like you aren't allowed to move from that seat the whole night.
Posted by ktelizabeth86[/QUOTE]

Wow that sounds so bizarre to me, sounds like they're being silly ;-)

Lrini1 · August 2012

One of my friends is struggling with being "the only single girl" even though she isn't the only one not in a relationship right now. She said that she's thinking about not coming because she's not seeing anyone, and if I don't give her a plus one she's definitely not coming. I don't see how this night is any different than any other time we get together and all have dinner or hang out. It really hurt my feelings that she couldn't just be happy for me and FI, but all the other girls backed her up saying it's rude and hurtful for me not to give +1's, so I gave in. And now I'm kicking myself for it because there are people I would rather invite to join us over some random stranger that's going to come just to come (most likely for the open bar).
I was shocked that no one seemed to get my side of it that it's a $60 meal (which is on the cheaper side thank goodness) plus alcohol, and cake, and a favor, and all the other extras for someone we don't know and will most likely never see again. I don't think others think of things like that until they've planned and paid for an event, I know I didn't have a total grasp of it. And it was really rude for her to make me feel like I was so insignificant to her that she couldn't possibly sit at a table with 5 of her closest friends/roommates and have fun.

danielle102304 · August 2012

I know the feeling! I just started getting my rsvp cards back and my fi aunt's whole family won't come bc we didn't allow kids and then he's dad said he wasn't going so we had to cave in and let the two kids go. Then my one friends boyfriend can't come so she asked me can i event my one friend and i said no I don't even know her. Ask far as I know she isn't coming know bc I wouldn't let her bring a friend. I can't wait to see who else pulls something. I'm already over all this drama. I just want my wedding to get her so I can stop being stressed.

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