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UGH!! Seriously people....RSVP related....

littlemoments324littlemoments324 member
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I am tired of people contacting FI or myself: hey can I bring someone??  NO!!!

Today is the latest...I received a message on FB from one of FI's 1st cousins telling us this story about their great aunt or someone whose cancer came back & that she felt left out because she didn't get an invitation...his cousin requested that we send her an invite if we had any left & that we should call her....FI didn't even know who I was talking about...so I asked his sister  & she explained who it was...and it kinda rang a bell to him...but yeah...seriously people...we are not paying X amount per head for people we do not know...the 165 are the people who mean the most to us & who have been there growing up....BAHHH!!!

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  • ILoveToRobotILoveToRobot member
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    Stinks about the great aunt having cancer but yeah, people are weird. I don't think I would ever imagine having the gall to tell someone they should invite so and so...
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  • Melissa.hyltonMelissa.hylton
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    I get why some people feel left out. But I wouldnt be complaining if a distant relative didnt invite me to a wedding. This is what is SO confusing for me. They basically want to be there for what? When have they called you? When have they put time in getting to know you? NEVER so why bother?? Ugh people. 
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  • michelle11988michelle11988 member
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    Ugh that totally sucks about asking outright for the invitation.  That is ballsy! I'm sorry to hear that FI's great aunt has cancer.  Is she thinking this will be the last time she might be able to see all her family at once?  That's the only way I could think they would do this.

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  • butterflyjumper1butterflyjumper1
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    ughhhhh that is SO annoying. I really cannot believe the balls that some people have when it comes to making comments like this. I had a friend drunkenly ask me on Saturdya night if she could bring the guy she had been "hooking up with" for the past week....
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  • LADY324LADY324
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_ugh-seriously-peoplersvp-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:2e90c84d-890d-404b-93ad-c1c76c2d1eb9Post:945a9441-3fa0-46b3-b848-763297e845c9">Re: UGH!! Seriously people....RSVP related....</a>:
    [QUOTE]ughhhhh that is SO annoying. I really cannot believe the balls that some people have when it comes to making comments like this. I had a friend drunkenly ask me on Saturdya night if she could bring the guy she had been "hooking up with" for the past week....
    Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

    so annoying I have a friend who started to date a guy 2 weeks ago.  She was not invited with a guest b/c she was not dating him when the invites went out.  We met him like the week after they met and he is pretty weird.  The day after we met he she texted me that she is bringing him as her guest.  WTF you were not invited with a guest!!  My friend has never had a boyfriend before so the chances of them still being together by our wedding is slim to none.  I sent her a text the other day just letting her know in a nice way that he is not invited to the rehearsal dinner.  Our dinner is going to be very small with just our parents siblings and bridal party with their spouses.  Apparently she was offended by this and told my other BM that she feels like I am singling her out b/c she is not married or engaged.  At this point I honestly don't care I don't want some sketchy ass dude at our rehearsal dinner who you have been dating for like 2 seconds!!
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  • littlemoments324littlemoments324 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_ugh-seriously-peoplersvp-related?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:2e90c84d-890d-404b-93ad-c1c76c2d1eb9Post:26ba30bb-26cc-4a43-80e3-92b2e9fc793f">Re: UGH!! Seriously people....RSVP related....</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ugh that totally sucks about asking outright for the invitation.  That is ballsy! I'm sorry to hear that FI's great aunt has cancer.  Is she thinking this will be the last time she might be able to see all her family at once?  That's the only way I could think they would do this.
    Posted by michelle11988[/QUOTE]

    I have no idea!  FI couldn't even remember who she was until his sister explained...and not even the whole side of that family is invited!  On the side that she is on, it is only FI's 1 uncle & 3 aunts plus the 4 single cousins & that is it! No one else because he was never really close to anyone past that..and even then he really isn't even close to one of his aunts...(his gparents on that side passed away within the past 4 years). 

    And it does suck she has cancer, but don't guilt trip me into inviting someone FI doesn't know!  It isn't your wedding...I guess after talking to FSIL, she said this same cousin tried inviting people to her wedding in February!!  I'm like ahh helllls nah!! hahaha
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  • butterflyjumper1butterflyjumper1
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    Lady I am totally with you!!! Same with this friend...she has never, ever had a boyfriend.....I don't want some random hookup at our wedding that she has been seeing for literally 5 seconds of her life!! UGH! Even worse with your friend since she is trying to bring him to the rehearsal...so annoying...

    I told my friend to get back to me in like 3 weeks once we have all our RSVPs back. I didn't feel like being mean at the time but if she decides to ask me again I am going to be!
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  • mekiakoomekiakoo member
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    This sucks!!

    It hasn't quiet happened to us yet except when we sent out the invites- we had no idea FI's cousin was dating anyone so we just sent one invitation to the entire family (father, son, daughter) since they all lived together (I know, we could have sent them all separate invitations because they were all 18+ but FMIL insisted that we do it this way). They sent back RSVP for 4 and didn't even put down who the 4th person was. GRRR. Just felt it was ballsy of them to do that- I would have appreciated them at least asking us if it was okay to include somebody else (which ended up being the girl's boyfriend).
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  • knjorgensenknjorgensen member
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    I feel your pain. I have let myself get into situations where guests have guilted me into letting them bring their kids when we initially decided to have only our immediate family's children (and because they are our flower girls). But one of our guests cornered me and gave me this sob story about how his 4 (Yes, FOUR) daughters were SO excited for the wedding and they already bought dresses... SIGH.
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  • meggles114meggles114
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    edited June 2012
    LOL I think people think that weddings are family reunions and EVERYONE in their family tree should be invited!

    I'm very glad to have a small family myself, haha well my Mom is kind of the black sheep of her family, so that helps!
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  • Carla1019Carla1019
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    People are so funny. I would never do this but I wish I could be rude back. Conversation would go like this:

    Guest: Hey Carla, My old roommate is visiting from OOT the day of your wedding can I bring him/her?

    Me: The wedding is costing me $100 per plate, would you like to give me the money to cover them?

    Guest: Oh, I didn't know, well since you said it like that, never mind.

    End of story.....

    Trust me if people had to dig into their pockets to pay for a guest's meal I'm 99% sure they would have a change of heart.

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  • ajmom2twoajmom2two
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    Ugh!  So frustrating!  I feel your pain since my dad is trying to do the same thing to me!  I am sorry that this person has cancer but I dont know them at all.  I have met them like 2 times my entire life and thats it.  If I dont even know someone's last name I should not be inviting them to the wedding!  Just tell his cousin that you are overlimit and that it just cant happen.  Sorry!
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