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Brunch etiquette

agvg75agvg75
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Long story short...
Getting married this weekend and my dad and stepmom offered to host a brunch for 20 people of our choosing. We extended the invite to wedding party members and very special out of town friends. We also wanted to include my mom and grandma even though it makes it very awkward for my dad and stepmom. 
We didn't mention mom's boyfriend because its a Friday and he ALWAYS works. So she called me and asked if he is invited. My first instinct is to say no...my dad and the boyfriend don't get along...you can read between the lines on that one. I know you are supposed to include partners together but does that extend to EVERY wedding event? He is invited to the wedding. I just feel like its a slap in my dad's face to have him come along on my dad's dime. We also managed to go way over the 20 people they originally offered to host.  
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Re: Brunch etiquette

  • TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    edited January 2013
    I know you are supposed to include partners together but does that extend to EVERY wedding event?

    That extends to all events, period. With the exception of something like a "girl's night out," where you obviously wouldn't invite boyfriends. If people would reasonably expected to be invited with SOs, like any other mixed-gender party or something where other people are invited with their SOs, you have to invite him.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    SO should always be invited together, regardless of the event, unless its a shower where its typically females only.  You also went over the 20 person limit that was offered to you.  I would advise you to invite mom's bf and pay for anyone above the 20 people your dad offered to host.
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  • agvg75agvg75
    10 Comments First Anniversary
    Ok. So I guess I should have just not invited my mom to avoid the dad / boyfriend situation. Sigh...families are so much fun :P
    Thanks for the input! 

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Yeah.  Unfortunately, if your mom is included, so must her SO be, whether your dad gets along with him or not.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    Yeah, if you invited other people with their SOs, then you should invite your mom's too. I totally know where you're coming from. My dad wouldn't care about paying for my mom, but he'd be super unhappy about her bf being there. I'd sit my dad down, like CMG suggested, and explain the situation. And I'd have the money in hand to help cover her bf. My dad probably wouldn't accept it, but I'd def offer it.
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