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Wait, WHAT?

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Sorry I've been MIA... this traveling shiz is for the birds.

So last night I get home, pick myself up & hit the job boards again, looking for what must be a better job for me than the one I just got rejected from.

They reposted the job.

THEY REPOSTED THE JOB.

So, let's recap. They told me I was one of the top two finalists. They did reference AND background checks. They called to tell me that I didn't have the event planning experience, or the list of established non-profit contacts in Maine that they wanted (even though that was CLEARLY on my resume), and that they had a couple other candidates who did. And then they REPOSTED THE JOB.

I really want to email the dude & be like "WTF??" but I know that's unprofessional. I am SO annoyed.

Obviously this wasn't the job for me. But I'm just so far beyond burned out with my current job that I can't even fathom staying here much longer. I know I don't have a choice, but I'm struggling. Hard. I really thought this was my out. I also know that I probably sound crazy & desperate, and that I'd take anything that came my way... and those are probably correct assumptions. That's just how I feel right now. I'd probably work at a gas station & move back into my parent's house at 30 if that's what it took at this point.



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  • dwest2201dwest2201
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    edited December 2011

    What a bunch of a-holes, sounds like they are a group of dishonest jerks that you wouldn't want to work for anyways.  But since I know that you really wanted a job in Maine I'm sorry Bri.  :(

    Keep your head up, keep applying.  A better job with better co-workers is right around the  corner!

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    If you're in event planning then you should know that it's all about connections and contacts. I know you're frustrated, but I'd still send a thank you note mentioning that you appreciated the interview and hope to cross paths in the future. It's just a good practice, and you never know when you may run into the company or the individuals you met again.

    Also, many companies HAVE to interview all applicants who meet the most basic qualifications. I know it seems a waste of time as a prospective employee...but for some HR departments this is the only way they can prove they are not being discriminatory. Try to not take it personal. Pick yourself up and move on to the next opening. Getting upset for too long will only block your ability to see and be open to other opportunities.
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  • elanniselannis member
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    edited December 2011
    Aw, I'm sorry. That really sucks! Something good has to be on it's way for you... it just usually happens when you least expect it! I hope you find something soon so you can get out of that job though!
    -Ely

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  • GoldenPenguinGoldenPenguin mod
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    edited December 2011
    Allusive - that's the thing... I'm not in event planning. The job was communications/PR, which I have almost 10 years of experience in. My job now does involve some events (beyond the game events that I do multiple times a week) but that isn't the main focus - nor was it the main focus of this job description, or the two interviews.

    I honestly think it was just an excuse as to why they weren't hiring me... and I don't know what the real reason is.



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  • GoldenPenguinGoldenPenguin mod
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    edited December 2011
    elannis - that's what BF said "just think about how many guys you had to go through before you met me!" :-)



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  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    When you send your thank you, why not ask if there was anything else that they would have liked to see?  I can't see how it would hurt, and it would give you a chance to show that you were genuinely interested in the job and that you want to work towards bettering yourself.  :)
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  • Lil B MamaLil B Mama
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry to hear they gave you the runaround, that has all kinds of suck on it. You seem like an intelligent and capable woman, and if a stranger on the internet can recognise that, I'm sure it wont be long before and employer does too. Best of luck!
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  • elanniselannis member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wait-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e3f6dcb-1737-4e59-9e52-4b267aea4a36Post:4f6190f3-d919-4f86-bb7b-a163fafe184a">Re: Wait, WHAT?</a>:
    [QUOTE]elannis - that's what BF said "just think about how many guys you had to go through before you met me!" :-)
    Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

    Haha, I prefer to say, "You have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your Prince Charming", lol.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wait-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e3f6dcb-1737-4e59-9e52-4b267aea4a36Post:a8033ed9-8735-4f24-9bf4-92b4303555fc">Re: Wait, WHAT?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Allusive - that's the thing... I'm not in event planning. The job was communications/PR, which I have almost 10 years of experience in. My job now does involve some events (beyond the game events that I do multiple times a week) but that isn't the main focus - nor was it the main focus of this job description, or the two interviews. I honestly think it was just an excuse as to why they weren't hiring me... and I don't know what the real reason is.
    Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

    Sorry if you felt misled by the company Bri. I still stand by my advice regarding the thank you letter. We can't get an offer on every job we apply for, but you never know when a company might think of you for another position or pass your name along to another company with an opening. People do talk after all.

    I've been at my company for 5 years now and I got the job by contacting someone here who didn't even have a position open. He passed my name along to another department and I had a job within the week. You just never know where good etiquette and manners will get you!
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  • GoldenPenguinGoldenPenguin mod
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, I like to remind him that I already KNEW him... I just had to shop around to make sure he was really the best ;-)

    Peek - you're right, I will ask that. And I'll try to refrain from writing a big ole WTF?!? across the notecard.



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  • elanniselannis member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wait-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e3f6dcb-1737-4e59-9e52-4b267aea4a36Post:12fc6066-ad5b-4d21-bd3e-326af04993ed">Re: Wait, WHAT?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Yes, I like to remind him that I already KNEW him... I just had to shop around to make sure he was really the best ;-) </strong>Peek - you're right, I will ask that. And I'll try to refrain from writing a big ole WTF?!? across the notecard.
    Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

    Haha, yeah, sometimes you just gotta make sure! : )
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  • csousa1csousa1 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wait-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e3f6dcb-1737-4e59-9e52-4b267aea4a36Post:42f8c124-6012-4e20-bc5e-37f83999b319">Wait, WHAT?</a>:
    [QUOTE] Obviously this wasn't the job for me. But I'm just so far beyond burned out with my current job that I can't even fathom staying here much longer. I know I don't have a choice, but I'm struggling. Hard. I really thought this was my out. I also know that I probably sound crazy & desperate, and that I'd take anything that came my way... and those are probably correct assumptions. That's just how I feel right now. <strong>I'd probably work at a gas station & move back into my parent's house at 30 if that's what it took at this point.
    </strong>Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

    There is nothing wrong with that. Except, maybe a restaurant instead of a gas station - tiny bit classier, and it smells better.

    Honestly, I had such a hard time getting settled in a job after college - I got laid off three times  over the course of three years. Throughout the whole thing I worked at a restaurant as well and honestly, every time I got laid off it was from a job that was NOT for me, so the prospect of having some time to clear my head and reassess what I actually wanted to do felt awesome. It was entirely worth it to "just be a waitress" for a while, it actually felt very freeing.

    Your credentials and resume will still be the same in a few months if you were to take the time to move and get settled and work somewhere part time. And in that time, you might be able to make some really good contacts. I know it was not your plan A to do something like that, but it is still an option. A better option than feeling desperate and burnt out where you currently are.

    I'm sorry you are having trouble with everything, I hope it all turns around for you VERY soon!!
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  • dwest2201dwest2201
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wait-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e3f6dcb-1737-4e59-9e52-4b267aea4a36Post:12fc6066-ad5b-4d21-bd3e-326af04993ed">Re: Wait, WHAT?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yes, I like to remind him that I already KNEW him... I just had to shop around to make sure he was really the best ;-) Peek - you're right, I will ask that. And I'll try to refrain from writing a big ole WTF?!? across the notecard.
    Posted by BriSox81[/QUOTE]

    Solution: write 2!  Just be sure to triple check that you do not mail the WTF one! :)
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  • SwazzleSwazzle member
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    edited December 2011
    Awww Bri, that really, really sucks & has to be so being frustrating.  I agree with Allusive & Peek, about sending the thank you card & asking what they were looking for.  I think you will definitely find something much better!!!  Great big :::hugs::::!!!!



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  • lennonkdclennonkdc member
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    Ugh! Sorry Bri that sucks! I agree with PP call and/or write a thank you note to the interviewer. It shows that you have a desire to better yourself, and when you final get to move back home, you never know when you might need to be in contact with that company. 

    I know it sounds trite, but I truly believe the set backs happen for a reason. I know you want out of where you are, but maybe this rejection is just life's way of helping you learn the 'It's not having what you want, its loving what you got' lesson. Silly I know, but it gets me through difficult time.

    **HUGS**



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