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Why NOT to give crap jobs

I recently went to the wedding of FI's college friend. They had four attendants on each side. There was a friend of the bride's that clearly didn't "make the cut" and was very clearly unhappy about it. No, I don't mean she was a sourpuss guest who just complained about everything or got drunk and ruined the first dance or something. No. She wasn't good enough to be a bridesmaid, but she was good enough to be the guest book attendant, apparently. She sat at the table the entire time, glaring at everyone and snapping "Sign the guest book" every time someone walked in the door. The MOH tried to talk to her, because this was upsetting the bride. She just threw up her hands and walked away from the table. No one saw her again for the rest of the night. Maybe that was immature of her to throw a hissy fit, but seriously, people, your guests are not helpless baby dolphins. They can see a guest book and pen and know what to do with it. Don't give people crap jobs as a consolation prize.

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  • Man I guess I'm in the minority and I would have been honored...I mean unless it was a good friend of mine (or somebody who I was very close with) and she had other people I knew that weren't as close to her as her BM's....then I would be upset otherwise I would have been honored.  I guess I look into things a little too much...on the good side.
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  • Yeah, I'd turn it down.  I'd resent missing the party for something so trivial otherwise.
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    [QUOTE]Yeah...I would have turned down that job in the first place. <strong><u> It's not an honor to sit at a table and tell people to sign a book</u></strong> (when I'm pretty sure they can figure that out) and have to miss the cocktail hour because you are 'working'.  F that.
    Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]


    But but but, you get a flower!!!  A pretty Corsage so people know you're important!
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  • lol I'd rather just get the corsage and not have to worry about the guest book
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  • I think we discovered on my month board awhile back that the "guestbook attendant" is pretty honorable in certain regions. I'd never have one.
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  • I was the "house party" at my cousin's wedding a couple of years ago.  TBH, it kind of stung that I wasn't invited to be in the wedding on my cousin's (who is a guy) side as a groomsmaid.  We were really close growing up.  "House party" felt a lot like a consolation prize.  

    I really don't remember much from that day as far as my "honor" went except that I had to be at the hall that morning to help set up.  I also had to help with the cake cutting.  
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  • I think it's regional. Also from Texas. And we do it around here. Actually frowned upon or questioned if you don't have one!!! Tho mine won't do much work =// there just as important to me as bridesmaids. And I treat them that way. They are all walking down the aisle.
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  • I'd definitely turn it down for the open bar. Hell, I'd probably turn it down even if it wasn't. I agree, asking someone to stand there and point to a book is something you give a 12yo cousin who wants to be involved, not an adult who didnt' make the BM cut.
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  • Holy cow DeeDee, you're having 300 people at your wedding!  Hope you have a really big guest book
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  • Ugh. That just plain sucks. How many people even look at their guest books again?
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  • What's a house party?
  • The "house party" at my cousin's wedding went to the hall to go set up for the reception.  Other than that I really don't remember much.  It is a regional thing.  I don't even know if I was mentioned in the program.  And I sure as hell didn't walk down the aisle.  

    In fact, I was going to have a house party (my mom's idea) until I booked a venue that does all the set up and everything (including cake cutting).  
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  • My former step brother and SSIL "honored" me with the privildge of being guest book attendent. I very politely told them nope. I was more than happy just being a guest.
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    [QUOTE]My former step brother and SSIL "honored" me with the privildge of being guest book attendent. I very politely told them nope. I was more than happy just being a guest.
    Posted by +HeatherW[/QUOTE]

    I'm glad you were able to be polite.  My response would go more along the lines of "just how stupid are the people you are inviting??"
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    [QUOTE]What's a house party?
    Posted by bvanosten[/QUOTE]

    I'm wondering the same thing....

    I don't see the problem with guest book attendant...how would you miss the wedding?  I guess I'm imagining the guest book attendant as somebody who greets before before the ceremony and just makes sure people sign the guest book...once the bridal party is lined up they go and sit down and that's the end of it...am I missing something here...why am I so clueless?
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  • [QUOTE]I don't see the problem with guest book attendant...how would you miss the wedding?  I guess I'm imagining the guest book attendant as somebody who greets before before the ceremony and just makes sure people sign the guest book...once the bridal party is lined up they go and sit down and that's the end of it.
    Posted by TiffannieF[/QUOTE]

    <div>I'm with this girl.  A friend and I were asked to be guest book attendants for another friend's wedding and we did it happily.  I thought it was nice to be asked.  We got to chat with everyone who was arriving for the wedding, and when it was time for the ceremony to begin, we sat down.  Painless.</div>
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