Thank you all for your responses. I appreciate the input. There seems to be a predominant thought of how this situation should be handled and I intend to consider your suggestions and thoughts and move forward in this situation with my future family and my family. I know that you all had a choice in responding and how you responded.
Please keep in mind, as you continue to post on boards and offer advice and knowledge, as you all know and have been through the process, that every wedding can be a difficult time for all parties involved and can be stressful. Sometimes the kindest of words, even if you are trying to steer someone in a different direction or to guide them and present them with their wrong-doings, can make a bigger effect than cutting them down with harsh words. Though many of you have gone through your weddings and have a wealth of advice to give, please keep in mind that many brides and their familes are going through this the first time and it's a new experience and steep learning curve.