guest RSVP issue

Re: guest RSVP issue

• mandi921vh member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  Honestly, you have to include guest's S/O's no matter how "serious" you think their relationship is, it's rude to split up a social unit. There is a difference between inviting a guest who has a S/O and his or her S/O and inviting a single guest with an "and guest." You don't have to invite singles with an "and guest" but you have to invite guests' S/O's.

  
  

  If you are unable to afford to pay for your guests' S/O's then you will have to explain your reasonings for why they weren't invited. Be prepared to have some guests RSVP no because their S/O is unable to come.

  

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• mancila60

  

  March 2012

  I would juat tell her the truth. You were not aware she was in a relationship but that you had planned on her attending with the other single friend and at this time you can not allow this guy to come becaise you are over your limit on people.

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• XxKrazy4u member

  

  March 2012

  YEah i wasnt aware she was even with anyone.  so i invited the 2 single girls w/o guests. So i didnt technically break a social unit. I didnt want people bringing people just to bring someone...im not even sure if "and guest" means her bf  (my assumption is she is dating someone) or if she is RSVPing for the other girl but i would have assumed it would have been put in the RSVP

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• mandi921vh member

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_guest-rsvp-issue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:8382780c-da2e-47d8-98b3-393fca72a9f9Post:d2655249-3d14-4b40-b5c8-ac31a052daf8">Re: guest RSVP issue</a>:
  [QUOTE]YEah i wasnt aware she was even with anyone.  so i invited the 2 single girls w/o guests. So i didnt technically break a social unit. I didnt want people bringing people just to bring someone...im not even sure if "and guest" means her bf  (my assumption is she is dating someone) or if she is RSVPing for the other girl but i would have assumed it would have been put in the RSVP
  Posted by XxKrazy4u[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Okay, this makes sense. I would find out who she is planning to bring, and if she mentions a boyfriend, because it sounds new, explain you didn't plan for this extra person, it's not in the budget and you are sorry, but cannot accommodate him.</div>

  

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• kimberlykh member

  

  March 2012

  I would call and see who she is bringing.  If she is bringing a BF, if you can, I'd try to accommodate. 
  But honestly, if she wrote "and guest" my assumption is that she is looking for a random date or bringing a friend.  If that is the case, I think it is fine to let her know you cannot accommodate. 

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• cpm1223

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_guest-rsvp-issue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:8382780c-da2e-47d8-98b3-393fca72a9f9Post:555b5b39-1637-4e75-89d7-c768abdc028b">Re: guest RSVP issue</a>:
  [QUOTE]I would call and see who she is bringing.  If she is bringing a BF, if you can, I'd try to accommodate.  <strong>But honestly, if she wrote "and guest" my assumption is that she is looking for a random date or bringing a friend.  If that is the case, I think it is fine to let her know you cannot accommodate.</strong> 
  Posted by kimberlykh[/QUOTE]
  
  This! She is probably hoping to find someone by the time of the wedding, which means she's not dating someone now so you can tell her that you don't have enough space for a guest.
  
  Call and ask her for the guest's name and if she says "well I don't know I havent found him yet" then you are off the hook and can tell her no.

  
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