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Catholic Anullments..... YIKES!

amandajaredamandajared
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Hey Ladies~

I am not catholic but will be marrying the man of my dreams, who is, in the very near future... There's just one thing, It very well could be later rather than sooner due to a catholic annullment. My first husband has been into drugs from what i understand and drops on and off the grid every now and then. Nobody really knows how to get ahold of him and I'm scared thats going to hold us up. We are ready to set a date but its kindof hard when you dont know how long the process will or can take!

My question to yall (yes, im from TX) is have you gone through this process? If so, how long did it take? was the other party able to be found and a willing participant? HELP!


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    Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    Have you spoken to a lawyer about this?
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    amandajaredamandajared
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    no, why would i need to speak with a lawyer? : /

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    skippylouwhoskippylouwho member
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    I think OP is talking about an anullment within the Catholic Church. I'm guessing she has the legal dissolution of her marriage. The Cathloic Church doesn't recognize them, you have to get an anullment through them that they recognize.
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    amandajaredamandajared
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    thanks! i am new to this board an ddidnt realize i was in the wrong section.

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    Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    Sorry, yeah I thought you meant a legal annulment. I don't know about getting a religious annulment, sorry!
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    squarepeg72squarepeg72
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    There many be some ladies on the Second Weddings board that can help too. Talk to your FH's priest and see if the church has some resources for you.
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    tldhtldh member
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     Were you previously married in the church?
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    amandajaredamandajared
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    no, it was a JP marriage, i was 17, and it was basically a guardianship change bc my mother wasnt exactly fit :(
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    tldhtldh member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_catholic-anullments-yikes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:359c70c4-0196-49c9-98c0-0e46d7b4d4d0Post:249046d4-0343-4e7c-b64a-8af77c8fec43">Re: Catholic Anullments..... YIKES!</a>:
    [QUOTE]no, it was a JP marriage, i was 17, and it was basically a guardianship change bc my mother wasnt exactly fit :(
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    If you weren't married in the Catholic church, I don't understand how it can issue an annulment.  You really need to talk to a priest about this.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_catholic-anullments-yikes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:359c70c4-0196-49c9-98c0-0e46d7b4d4d0Post:6226f2fe-be8a-4767-be07-bf6ef26d49bb">Re: Catholic Anullments..... YIKES!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Catholic Anullments..... YIKES! : If you weren't married in the Catholic church, I don't understand how it can issue an annulment.  You really need to talk to a priest about this.
    Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

    <div>It's only an annulment for the Catholic Church.  They don't expect anyone else to recognize it.  </div><div>
    </div><div>While the church doesn't recognize marriages of Catholics performed outside the church, they do recognize marriages of non-catholics performed outside the church.  </div><div>
    </div><div>Anyway, I think it's a shortened process for non-Catholics.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_catholic-anullments-yikes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:359c70c4-0196-49c9-98c0-0e46d7b4d4d0Post:0ed88222-1c81-40bf-b81a-c7118438df5d">Re: Catholic Anullments..... YIKES!</a>:
    [QUOTE]My husband went through an annulment, many, many years ago. His ex-wife chose not to respond to the questionnaire that was sent to her. It didn't hold up the process at all. The tribunal proceeded within the original time frame. If she had objected to the annulment and presented her own testimony, that might have slowed things down. You will probably have to give his last known address and the address of his parents or another close relative. The length of time that it takes to get an annulment varies from one diocese to another. My husband's took 6 months, but that was a very long time ago. The priest that is assigned to help you with your paperwork should be able to give you a fairly accurate time estimate. Good luck.
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    I grew up really good friends with the canon lawyers and judges who do all this, and this sounds about right.
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    kimiandgarykimiandgary
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    If you aren't Cathlolic how are you going to be married in the Catholic church? It was my understanding you needed to be a practicing/communioned member of a church for it to be recognized or performed my a Catholic priest anyway.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_catholic-anullments-yikes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:359c70c4-0196-49c9-98c0-0e46d7b4d4d0Post:53cc1082-16bd-4922-9e60-38cba0e182af">Re: Catholic Anullments..... YIKES!</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you aren't Cathlolic how are you going to be married in the Catholic church? It was my understanding you needed to be a practicing/communioned member of a church for it to be recognized or performed my a Catholic priest anyway.
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    <div>Only one spouse needs to be catholic.  Her fiance is catholic, so they're good.</div>

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    amandajaredamandajared
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    thnak you guys for all of the advice and feedback! we have a meeting to start the annulment process on monday! im sure it will be a long road, (18-24 months in Dallas) but like so many of you told me, it will mean more and be worth it! thanks!

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    MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    Good luck to you. It's such a nice thing for you to do for your fiance.
                       
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    Jaridds68Jaridds68
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    Sounds like you should really talk to a priest about your options and timing. When my aunt and uncle were planning their wedding my uncle's annullment was taking longer than expected. So they used a JOP, and once the anullment came through they got their marriage validated within the church. Good luck!
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