Ok, this is all going to sound ridiculous... But I'm sure some of you ladies have dealt/are dealing with this!
Background:
My fiance's brother got married in July, him and his wife are very flashy, she loves parties, everything constantly needs to be about her. She had a HUGE engagement party (150 people), 3 bridal showers etc.
I am quite the opposite, I don't like lots of attention, need huge parties.
My FMIL wants to throw an engagement party. She called and spoke to my mom about it before asking me. My mom told her she had to ask me if it was ok before doing it. I gave the ok under the condition it was small, cocktails only. They spoke and my FMIL said she would get in touch with my mom so they could plan it together. I guess my FMIL sent my sister (also my MOH) a message on facebook asking for help with invitations and a guest list this weekend. I guess she never contacted my mom. Needless to say my mom is very upset, and I am of course in the middle of it. I told my mom I don't want drama (I know it is inevitable). My mom is going to email my FMIL to try to deal with it.
I know my FMIL is very pushy, so I think my FH and I need to sit down and have a discussion, laying down the ground rules. My FMIL had asked about what my preference was for a bridal shower (mind you, we are getting married Oct 13, 2012) if we wanted a couple small ones or one big one. I told her I wanted one big one, but my sister (MOH) would be taking care of it.
AGH!