Creative Way to Ask Bridesmaids?

amubarak · November 2012

Any suggestions for how to ask my girls to be my Bridesmaids? Looking for something creative but that won't cost to much money and take up to much time to make/do.

Stina51286 · November 2012

I just gave all my girls cards when we went to eat (individually). The cards had memories of our friendship written in them and at the end it asked if they'd be by my side in my next journey and asking to be a BM.

vsgal · November 2012

I just asked mine when I saw them in person. Not creative, but effective, free and didn't take up extra time.

itzMS · November 2012

I asked each individually and sent them a card must like Stina.

Then I let them know I'd be paying for their bridesmaid dress

. That was a better surprise than any "creative" thing I could've done.

The common sentiment is that poems and other cutesy things are somewhat cheesy.

AimeeRab · November 2012

One of my friends sent me a sugar cookie in the shape of a bridesmaid's dress with a tag on it that said, "Will you be my Bridesmaid?" We all liked it a lot.

I called everyone or spoke with them in person. After they said yes, I sent them a cute but inexpensive shirt with "Bridesmaid" on the front.

Asking my good friends personally was awesome.

Jen4948 · November 2012

I'd just ask and not worry about being "creative." Being too cute and clever about just asking can be a turnoff and also suggests that you don't take your wedding very seriously, whereas a simple, heartfelt "Laura, would you be willing to be one of my bridesmaids? I would feel very honored and privileged if you would" is IMO more likely to get you positive results and get across the idea that you are asking them for a serious commitment.

Summer2011Bride · November 2012

I would just ask them individually in person (or over the phone if they're OOT) and make it heartfelt and sincere. That's always meant the most to me and also how I asked my BMs.

HobokensFury · November 2012

It doesn't need to be a production. Just ask.

MyNameIsNot · November 2012

Just ask them. Or say something about how "you are so important to me and have been there during so many important steps, and I couldn't imagine getting married without you by my side..."

Making cutesy cards, cookies, etc just makes it into a production, and downplays the actual point.

KSerafin17 · November 2012

I bought a four pack of mini wine bottles on the package I put a little sticker that said, "I feel the need for a drink coming on" One each of the four bottles I put another sticker
1. Bridesmaid Dress shopping
2. Planning a Bridal Shower
3. Attending a Bachelorette Party
4. the BIG day, with the date

I put that in a cute gift bag and included a pocket sized calendar for each girl so they can coordinate eachothers cell numbers, emails, and dates we are getting together.

I also ordered really cute personalized bridesmaid invites from Etsy that said "Say Yes to the Dress" and wrote a heartfelt note on each.

Total per girl cost about $15 bucks and they LOVED IT!

gurrlballa10 · November 2012

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erinlin25 · November 2012

I just ordered a card from etsy (it was designed to look like me and the 5 bridemaids... I picked the dress color, hair color and hair style, they came out super cute) and inside I just a wrote them a note ending with asking them to be my bridemaid. Card was $10 for the design I can keep and use on whatever/whenever I want. I printed them at work onto white note cards I bought from the $1 bin at Michaels + cost of stamp to mail (so $12 and some change for 5 cards). Easy Peasy!

RWolff · November 2012

All of my bridesmaids live fairly far away from me, but my preference would have been to tell them in person. As it was, I called my 3 best friends from college the weekend we got engaged, and called my little sister and parents once we were back in the country.

Because I could not have dinner with each and ask personally, I wanted to do something a little bit special. I did as others have suggested and wrote them notes about how much our friendship means to me. I then put together a small favor box with a ringpop, and inside the top flap I wrote "Will you be my bridesmaid?" (MOH for my sister).

We've always done cute letters and handmade gifts, etc. for birthdays and holidays, so this went with our usual style. I would advise not doing anything cute or crafty just for the heck of it. If you do something that is typical of you, it will mean more to those closest to you. If that's cute crafts, then go for it!

ashtarasky · November 2012

Wow- there's a lot of judgy brides in this forum!

I think that if you want to be creative and do something cutesy, GO FOR IT! This is the one time you get to ask your best friends to officially stand by your side (like they always have in the past), and if you want to make it special, do it! I just got engaged and I'm going to try (if I can pull it off) to make little boxes with pictures of us in the past, along with a little card explaining how much they mean to me and then ask them to be a maid.... I was always just asked in person and I really loved that too, but I think both ways are special. Seriously. NO ONE is going to receive a special gift (especially with booze!) from one of their best friends and think "well this is cheesy"..... especially if it's all about how much you care about them! If they were those kinds of people then you probably wouldn't be asking them anyway. You go girl! I've seen some cute custom hankies for like $12, and those seem SUPER cute too. I'm at the exact same stage as you and I'm trying to enjoy every moment. I think you're a super sweet person for wanting to make your maids feel special. Don't listen to brides that want to knock down your creativity!

xo

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