Wedding Wednesday 9/7

calindi · September 2011

Ladies, today will be a series - feel free to answer all or however many apply.

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten?

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner?

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding?

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding?

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK?

calindi · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten?
It's just a party. It will never be perfect, and it isn't supposed to be. You will never make everyone happy. It's not a fairytale, it's real life and regardless of whether your flowers turn out perfect, your guests arrive on time, or even if your dress catches on fire the morning of your wedding (yes, this happened to my Mom), you are really marrying that man. The whole point is that you and your fiance get married, so as long as that happens by the end of the day, and no one's killed anyone else, then it was a success.

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner?
Don't mention wedding things AT ALL to people who aren't invited. It becomes really awkward. It wasn't like I was Suzie Chatterbox, but they asked some questions and I answered, and then they were like, "I can't wait to see it all!" Um... yeah, about that... So in retrospect, I would have brushed it off with a non-answer, like, "We're still trying to figure out all the details! I'm just enjoying being engaged. So tell me about your..." and changed the subject.

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding?
Trying to include my future in-laws in the planning. I don't know how interested they are - they don't seem to be at all - but I also don't want to exclude them. It's very different than any wedding they've been to, so I think they kind of judge me for it being so expensive. I wait for them to bring it up, and when they do I answer their questions but try not to dwell on wedding stuff since it just doesn't seem to interest them anyway.

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding?
I'm actually enjoying the coordinating bit. Working with different vendors, chipping away at planning the event itself. The stuff most people hate, I love. I look forward to all the details coming together, but I think I just enjoy the process. Oh, and DIY projects. Any excuse to buy craft supplies, like scissors and x-acto knives, is a good thing!

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK?
To go to a paint store and pick up those paint swatches for all my wedding colors. One of the girls who used to hang out on the Not Engaged Yet board did this, and swore by it. If you get multiple copies of each color, you can hand them out to vendors so they know exactly what tone and palette you are going for! The artist in me loved this idea, and my Mom told her younger colleagues who are engaged and the girls ran out and did it, too! My florist has loved it, and I sent swatches to my Etsy designer to make sure my sash will be the same color as my shoes.

SamiJoeB · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten?
Not to let it overwhelm me.

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner?
That eloping would be easier and that no one would have been mad at us..

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding?
There are sooo many decisions to make, and I felt like I had to consider everyone's opinions, when I really didn't have to.

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding?
TK? Cake & Food tasting.. I didn't really like dress shopping because I was a whale, and I couldn't find the dress(s) that I wanted..

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK?
I have no idea. I've learned alot from the regs on the boards, but I can't think of just one thing..

amh04 · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten?
It's just a party, and don't lose focus of what is important to you and your FI.

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner?
Your not going to make everyone happy, but you can make yourself and FI happy.

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding?
For me - everything. LOL. I think its not knowing my area so well, and relying on google/tk for input on places. I think a big part that is hard for me: is when I want to go do girly wedding things, I have to do them alone. I would feel too bad dragging FI with me (although he has been so sweet) and that if I want a pedicure with my bm's or something I have to travel - that essientially its up to me to pamper myself. That was a tough pill for me to swallow for whatever reason.. oh and not trying to step on FSIL's toes.

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding?
Being far away that I don't have to use my mom's idea's. JK. Umm.. getting to go taste a lot of cake.

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK?
I found my florist thanks to my local board and i love love love her. but that isn't advice... umm. maybe the timeline because it was the first list I had ever seen wedding wise.

YoungDuo · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten? Nothing is ever going to be perfect. Enjoy the day because at the end of it all, you're going to be married.

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner? I was told by everyone to just elope and I am the point where I wish I had listened.

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding? All the details. It's not that I don't care about them, I'm just so whatever about things. I just want it to be pretty.

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding? I loved looking at dresses, for me and for my BMs. And I love that my BMs want to help with things. It makes the not so fun stuff, fun

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK? It's not all about you. You have one day and that's it. Being bridezilla is going to get you nowhere and for the most part, getting married is not worth losing lifelong friends over.

firsttimersluck · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten?
Make the decisions that make YOU (as a couple) happy.
I should have listened to this earlier... I made so many choices based on other people and it bit us in the booty. We just got caught up in the "party of everyone else" aspect and forgot to remember that it's a wedding for US.

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner?
e.l.o.p.e .
hahahhaa

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding?
The guest list. We're sending out the squadron invites right now and it's so easy to offend people, hurt feelings, etc. I have had a bunch of extended family assume they are invited.. OOPS! It's just so easy to upset people, but when you're looking at $$$$ per person.. Sorry guys!

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding?
two things:
1. Doing so much with FI! I love him for his involvement. The only stuff I have done alone has been the DIY stuff (and that's just because I get bored so I come up with a new project:P ) Everything else, he ha helped with and it's SUCH a fun experience to be working on this huge planning project with my best friend. It's made us an even better team.
2. The DIY stuff! I have had a blast with it! I just finished our table numbers and they are of all the brides in the family. (these in particular are my mom and his mom) With the argyle pattern for Fi's nickname.

Now I'm working on the escort board. Just bought a HUGE old window pane and will be writing everyone on there with the paint pens in our colors.

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK?
Oh boy that's tough... I think from the ACTUAL website makers, just basic info for wedding planning..
From the boards, again decisions based on what WE want; and how to let people down politely and easily...

Rethany · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten?
a. Don't spend large amounts of money on things people won't remember.
b. Don't let things get you down on the day of. If something doesn't go as planned, just brush it off. (I hope I can stick to this plan!)

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner? Don't ask your bridesmaids too far out. I haven't had any problems with mine and don't forsee any problems happening but I should have waited regardless. Just in case something were to happen.

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding?
a. The money aspect of it gets me down sometimes. I wonder why I'm spending this much, but in reality I'm actually not spending as much as I could for a 300 guest list wedding.
b. School and work get in the way sometimes. I get in wedding modes where all I want to do is plan and I can't because of school or work.

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding? Probably the DIY stuff. I like to think I'm kind of crafty so it is fun finding ideas and deciding how I can make it instead of purchase it.

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK? Not to plaster my wedding all over facebook. I don't think I would have to begin with because I get annoyed with other people that do. But it was still good advice and hearing how people can react to those that do post it everywhere.

divinemsbee · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten? I'll agree with other girls, it's a party; and plan the party you can pay for.

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner?No one, and I mean no one, will ever be as interested in your wedding as you are. Also, guest is still a place of honor and attendants aren't entirely necessary. And October is a popular month.

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding? FI's mother. Full stop.

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding?Since I've still not set anything in stone (the date in my profile is what I was guesstimating before this last Air Force set-back), I haven't been doing a ton. Which kind of makes me feel like a fake engaged person. Which sucks. I know I can do it quickly and have it be awesome, but I wish that I didn't think we'd be moving before January. But the most fun I've had is actually compiling the family lists.

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK? There were quite a few dog-training threads on E and Chit Chat a while back, and they are coming in very handy right now. Plus all of the fantastic Military advice I've gotten here.

megmac24 · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten? Not to let it get to me & drive me crazy. I'm a perfectionist but I know in the end it's not going to be perfect.

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner? To stop trying to please other people. It's my FI and I's wedding. We can't please everyone. It needs to be about us.

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding? For me it's been all the little things that go along with it. Finding a DJ, photographer, dress, etc. was very easy for me. Trying to figure out invitations and favors is driving me insane. The guest list has also been a big issue because FMIL doesn't understand that 220 maximum means NO MORE than 220. We're at about 190 right now, but that's without any Marine Corps friends that FI wants to invite.

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding? I love weddings in general, so being able to plan my own is the funnest part. I've always had a fascination with the wedding world since I was a little girl. I also love how involved my FI is, even while he's deployed. He'll send me links to things he likes and always wants to know what's going on. I can't wait until he's home so we can actually go do some wedding things together!

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK? No wedding talk on Facebook. I made the mistake right after we got engaged and had people I hadn't spoken to in years suddenly taking an interest in my life and the wedding.

CAB1217 · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten? Whatever happens, whatever goes wrong, it will all be alright, and my wedding will be amazing anyway. Oh, and most likely, no one will notice.

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner? I wish I knew the above advise BEFORE I got engaged. I had a stupid freakout really early on in the engagement.

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding? Getting bad advice from former bridezillas. (It's YOUR DAY, you can do WHATEVER YOU WANT. Uhhh... no cousin bridezilla, no one likes you now cause that was your attitude, I'm not going down that road, too.)

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding? Those moments when you are doing something so little, like picking out your toasting flutes, or finding your photographer, and realizing that you're MARRYING YOUR LOVE!

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK? Not so much advice, but whenever I have posted about issues I've had down the road (like the Army scholarship thing,) you guys were all there to tell me to keep my head up, not worry, and you all gave me your well wishes. I love that I can come here and talk about this stuff with you all, and not have to go to people who do not have wedding on the brain, therefore could care less

I guess I'd rather burden you all then IRL friends! Ha ha!

LetsHikeToday · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten? Not to make an exception for one person. If you end up doing that, you'll keep giving in more and more

2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner? Definitely elope. Looking back, I wanted to but H didn't. H now says that he'd elope. I wish he would have gotten that advice earlier.

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding? Most of it. I wasn't a fan.

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding? My day was amazing. I loved everything about it. I just didn't like the planning. I don't think I liked any part of it. The week before the wedding, I was off of school and spent the week with my mom running errands. That was the best part- spending quality time with her.

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK? ??

ggirl2001 · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten?
At the end of the day you will still be married, the rest is just fluff.
2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner? Since I was the last of the 4 siblings in my family to get married, I knew a whole lot about planning so I was generally relaxed throughout the process.

3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding? Guest list/family drama

4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding? Dress shopping, tastings, researching vendors and looking at invites. I didn't want to make decisions because I liked so much of what I saw.

5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK? Hmmm, I don't know.

KendallR10 · September 2011

1. What's the best piece of advice for planning a wedding that you've ever gotten?
Breathe. Don't stress.
2. What's one piece of advice or tip that you wish you had learned sooner?
No one will notice but you
3. What's the hardest thing about planning a wedding?
HIM!! He's so un helpful
4. What's the most fun thing about planning a wedding?
All the fun ideas I could do
5. What's the best piece of advice (wedding or non-wedding) that you have ever gotten from TK?

idk

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