Help! Hello I'm new to this but I need some sage advice. My fiance & I are getting married June 2010. He wanted to go away & not involve anyone....just him, myself & the 4 kids we have combined. Although I had 2 children; this my first marriage/wedding. I am very excited & want my friends & family (although small) there to celebrate with us. He relented because he knows it's what I really want & now is getting excited. My dilema is this: HIS FAMILY IS THE WORST!!!!! I cannot stand most of them & the feeling is mutual (so I've heard). They gossip about me, berate me, lie & basically treat me as if they are merely tolerating me. I have never in my life been treated so terribly by someone's family. My fiance & I come from 2 completely different backgrounds & his family thinks I think I am better than them. I have never, ever behaved as though I thought I was better. No matter what I do, I can't get a break. I have bent over backwards to fit in with them....even when I knew the things that were being said. Everything I say is taken out of context & twinsted around. My fiance has even noticed it & subsequently has distanced himself from them....fewer calls & visits, etc....I in no way, ever wanted that, but they are truly awful people. They are also extremely foul mouthed (ALL of them)....no matter if there are kids around or not. They are rude, inconsiderate, vulgar, tacky, ghetto, ill mannered...you name it.
How am I supposed to have these people at my wedding when I know they don't even like me, so they won't really be supporting this union. They will be faking it like they always do & I will feel like I am wasting my & my fiance's hard earned money. We are paying for this wedding...his parents didn't even offer to help with a thing. One of his brother's is so uncouth & ignorant...& has a girlfriend to match...that I am afraid they will somehow ruin my reception. She will be snapping her gum & dropping F Bombs while he swears up a blue streak being as loud as he can. We attend a church & would like to invite some of the people from there as well as the pastor & his wife (who are marrying us), I'm afraid that his family will scare them off or embarrass us to no end. What can I do? How should I handle it? I would appreciate any advice anyone can offer. Thank you.