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+1's and kids are RSVPing!!

MerryfjMerryfj member
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We're starting to get RSVP's back and people are bringing +1's and their kids. I guess our subtle and polite approach to only addressing the invitation to the invited people wasn't obvious enough. Kicking myself now for not ignoring etiquette and saying no kids allowed! What do you do if you're getting close to max capacity for your reception space? Start calling people. Ugh! Not fun! I guess we'll see how it pans out but I'm a little worried.
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Re: +1's and kids are RSVPing!!

  • jennyann28jennyann28
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    We had to tell people they can't bring their kids.  I got one today from FI's friend who knew his daughter wasn't invited, but asked if he could bring her anyway.  We said "Sorry, only kids who are related to us are invited."  So instead of getting a sitter, he's coming and his wife is staying home with the kid... Whatever...
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  • saracksarack
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    edited December 2011
    i'd say no kids right away. its for the best!
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  • melissa82melissa82 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd tell them right away, whether you're near max capacity or not. It's not fair for people who aren't rude/got sitters and they will be insulted when they see kids there and know theirs weren't invited.
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  • fancynewbeccafancynewbecca
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    No bueno!!! That's my worst nightmare, literally.
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  • briandbry2010briandbry2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    we had the same problem. Call them right away and say " sorry but due to space and BUDGET( that gets them everytime) we had to decide to not invite anyone under the age of blah blah blah. if they don't understand too bad . we only made exceptions for people who had nursing infants.
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  • KahalagurlKahalagurl
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Definately be straight up with the no kids rule... axing plus +1's may be a little more challenging. 
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  • kristend72kristend72
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    edited December 2011
    I hope that my guests feel it's proper but I'm going with only +1s for people who either have a serious significant other, or would otherwise not know anyone (like a friend from the gym who doesn't know anybody gets a +1 but a cousin who will have a bunch of family doesn't). Then, regardless of age, I'm only inviting people who we are close to. My cousins kids who have essentially become nieces and nephews to me? Absolutely. My coworkers kids who I see twice a year at the summer picnic and holiday dinner who don't know my name? No.

    Then, to be abundantly clear because I think we might end up with a venue we're barely squeezing into, I'm going to do something on the lines of: 

    "We have reserved two spaces for you"
    _____ will attend
    _____ graciously decline

    Maybe with checkboxes.
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