My little sister has been dating this guy H for almost a year, and I can't stand him. He's a hipster nightmare who doesn't work except for his "band" and has a Jens Lekman hair. He treats her like a 1950s housewife, constantly blows her off, but throws a fit when she wants to go out without him. I've told her she deserves better, but I don't push the issue, because I want to respect her choices. However, I hate when he hangs out at my bakery. My sister works for me, and sometimes he hangs around waiting for her to get off work. While he does this he's loud and obnoxious, and though I've never caught him, there's always graffiti in the bathroom after he's been there.
Well today he went into the bathroom and I took note of when he went in there. Iwaited for him to come out, but it was taking so long I started to think he'd already gotten out and I'd missed him. 15 minutes later another customer was waiting for the restroom, and I decided that was enough, went over and asked him through the door if he was alright. He said yes, he'd be right out, so I waited a few more minutes and he opened the door.
The bathroom was COVERED with graffiti. COVERED. Just scribbled hipster bullsh*t in sharpie. Whole paragraphs and inane diatribe that's trying to be deep, like "blank walls are ethical silence, im still going strong, expression is natural drywall is not, are you free yet?" Not just a little bit of this. It was on all 4 walls. I'm going to need to repaint the entire thing because of him.
Needless to say, I BANNED him immediately. I've had to ask people to leave before, but I've never actually full-on banned anyone. This was it. My sister was crying and H was screaming at me about the First Amendment, I threatened to call the police, he stormed out. My sister was pissed at me, which made ME pissed at HER, because there is no universe where it is okay for your boyfriend to hardcore vandalize your sisters business. I told her that if she wanted to take sides she could go after him. She didn't, and cried it out in the kitchen, but not before telling me "This wedding is making you a b*tch!"
I'm sick of this guy. I know she was just upset and being emotional, but I feel I have stretched my patience to the max for her. I'm absolutely not allowing him at the wedding, but I haven't told her yet. Now is definitely not the time. I was going to suck it up and let him come provided my sister watched how much he drank, but now? No way. My bakery is my baby, and he burned that bridge when he messed with my baby.