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• agapecarrie member

  

  January 2012

  You do not have to convert to get married in the church. This isn't a problem. 

  
  

  All sacraments have to have some kind of formation for them....because they are that important. Speak to the priest and he can help you all do what you need to do to complete it (might even be online). 

  
  

  
  

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• professorscience member

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  Waitwaitwait.  You are already married?  What you need then is a convalidation of your marriage, not a ceremony.  You've already had the ceremony.

  
  

  I agree with agape that you need to speak with a priest -- probably one with whom your husband or your ILs are familiar so that you will feel more comfortable -- about your options.

  
  

  Many of the marriage preparation classes can be done by distance or in the course of a day, so you can find a way to work around your schedule.

  

  
  

  
  

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• etrattles member

  

  January 2012

  If you were married in a courthouse, or in another non-religous setting, the wedding would be the same as if you weren't already married. Since you're not Catholic you can have a litergy of the word, which will basically exclude communion. They may not require precanna since you're already married (depending on the circumstances) you can probably just email the priest with any questions! good luck!

  

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• agapecarrie member

  

  January 2012

  To be clear here, a Catholic married outside the church is not married. When they get the marriage "convalidated" they are actually getting married. The word convalidation is referring to what the priest is doing...he is not acting in the civil manner, just the religious one. 

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• professorscience member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_help-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:8822a765-cf21-4ebe-afd2-c54b431fae07Post:2931845f-3a36-439e-94cf-f54d2c2b053e">Re: HELP!!!!</a>:
  [QUOTE]To be clear here, a Catholic married outside the church is not married. When they get the marriage "convalidated" they are actually getting married. The word convalidation is referring to what the priest is doing...he is not acting in the civil manner, just the religious one. 
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  <div>Yes, but I got the feeling from the OP that they are looking to have a second ceremony.  It was my understanding that a convalidation wouldn't look like a wedding mass.  If that is wrong I'd love to know.</div>

  

  
  

  
  

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• bibliophile2010 member

  

  January 2012

  I believe a convalidation can look like a wedding mass at the discretion of the priest. Most often, from my understanding, a priest is unlikely to allow a big PPD party, but may allow a quiet family service. I have, though, seen a convalidation done during daily mass, which was actually quite lovely.

  

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