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If your kid is already screaming in the parking lot...

baconsmombaconsmom member
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Don't fcking bring her into the store and do your shopping, moron!

Ran out to Office Depot for submission stuff, and parked behind some woman whose ~3 yo was screaming about not wanting to go into the store. I understand not wanting to give in to the kid, but you do not take a screamer into a store to inflict her on other people. We could hear that kid the whole damn time we were there (which, yeah, was only like 15 minutes, but still.). 

The cashier asked "How was your - shopping experience?" with a big eyeroll, and then complimented Bacon. Poor lady. At least I got to leave the store. 
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  • katorigasukikatorigasuki
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    edited December 2011
    if junior is not feeling up to office depot that's when you make an exectutive decision to do your shopping later.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    Stories like these make me thank God every day that the kiddo was never a screamer.  He's a silent pouter and has been since he was a wee little one. 
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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    Honestly, I don't mind a screaming kid as long as the parent is making an effort. If she's just happily going about her shopping as if she can't hear it that's one thing. But if she's at least trying to get the kid to stop I'll forgive it, regardless of how successful the attempts are.
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  • *Candi**Candi* member
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    edited December 2011
    Gah. This happened yesterday in a store. There was a kid screaming on one aisle and you could hear it everywhere. I said to MIL "someone needs to shut that kid up" and this nearby lady gave me the stink eye. WTF?


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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kid-already-screaming-parking-lot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:d13f90cb-c0d5-4081-996c-eb53f7232a92Post:b7d11819-3520-4f8b-b6b8-fe168a8e6e4a">Re: If your kid is already screaming in the parking lot...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Honestly, I don't mind a screaming kid as long as the parent is making an effort. If she's just happily going about her shopping as if she can't hear it that's one thing. But if she's at least trying to get the kid to stop I'll forgive it, regardless of how successful the attempts are.
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

    <div>I would agree, Duckis, if the kid had started screaming once in the store.</div><div>
    </div><div>But she didn't. <em>She was having a fit in the parking lot.</em> I would have put her back in the car, gone home, and stuck her in her room for time out. Not inflicted her on innocent bystanders. </div>
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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    I HATE hearing children scream in stores. If mom is actually actively trying to soothe the little howler monkey, I'm less annoyed.


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  • *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kid-already-screaming-parking-lot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:d13f90cb-c0d5-4081-996c-eb53f7232a92Post:bef6483b-3327-4c3e-9522-e7caaa8015f9">Re: If your kid is already screaming in the parking lot...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: If your kid is already screaming in the parking lot... : I would agree, Duckis, if the kid had started screaming once in the store. But she didn't. She was having a fit in the parking lot. <strong>I would have put her back in the car, gone home, and stuck her in her room for time out.</strong> Not inflicted her on innocent bystanders. 
    Posted by baconsmom[/QUOTE]

    <div>crying kids in stores annoy me to no end, especially if the parents are doing nothing to stop it - but some people don't have the luxury of just turning around, going home, and punishing the kid. if anything she could have given the kid a time out in the car. </div>
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    Well, at 10 am on a Monday, this lady had one non-screamer and the screamer at Office Depot. I honestly can't think of any immediate need for office supplies - it's not like groceries or something. 

    Frankly, I don't think discipline is a luxury. She should have done something besides take the kid in the store. Period. Flame me if you want, but I've been there. I had a stubborn, tantrumy kid. Still do. I do not take her out in public when she's like that, and if we're already out, we go home. I have left full grocery carts; I have left movies; I have been inconvenienced. But that's parenting. It's what I signed up for.
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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    A cart full of food that some poor grocery store employee is going to have to reshelve, and meat and dairy products that will need to be thrown away? I don't think this is preferable to letting the kid scream. For one thing, you're letting the kid know that all they have to do is throw a fit and they get to go home to their toys.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    No, they go home to punishment. I did this maybe twice before Bacon realized it was *not* preferable to go home. And then she stopped acting out in public. 

    FWIW, I always apologized to the staff. I didn't leave a cart sitting in the middle of an aisle, or anything, either. Some stores, they'll store the cart in the cooler for you until you come back, anyway. 
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    I am taking notes on all of this, because I have a feeling I'm going to need it someday.
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  • *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_kid-already-screaming-parking-lot?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:d13f90cb-c0d5-4081-996c-eb53f7232a92Post:3e8bb9a2-a0c0-4158-9811-671474a645a4">Re: If your kid is already screaming in the parking lot...</a>:
    [QUOTE]A cart full of food that some poor grocery store employee is going to have to reshelve, and meat and dairy products that will need to be thrown away? I don't think this is preferable to letting the kid scream. For one thing, you're letting the kid know that all they have to do is throw a fit and they get to go home to their toys.
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

    <div>I'm with TD here. Discipline is not a luxury, but time is - especially for working parents. </div><div>
    </div><div>If I have a few hours set aside to run errands, I'm going to run them whether or not my kid is being an asshole. I'm the parent, I'm the boss, and I'm not going to let the kid dictate how I spend time. The kid will be disciplined/punished either way. </div><div>
    </div><div>I can't ever remember my mom taking my sister and/or myself home while she was in the middle of errands because we were misbehaving. She would discipline us, and then punish us when we got home, if necessary.</div><div>
    </div><div>The mom may have been out running other errands and stopped at OD because it was convenient for her at the time. (It would likely have been a pain to make a second trip.) Was she trying to discipline the bad kid, or just letting it go? I'm assuming with a ~15 minute duration she wasn't even trying to get the kid to shut up. </div>
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  • PMeg819PMeg819 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'll throw my two cents in even though Chubby is only 4 months old. I've done the leaving in the store. It's hard to comfort a kid who is going to be distracted by stuff- lights, noise, sight. I don't care if I have a cart full of stuff...I know he's not going to calm down until I can get his full, undivided attention. And quite frankly, I have no desire to shop and try to get him to calm down.
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  • nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    edited December 2011
    IMO, leaving the store is okay for infants.  But a toddler, no.  And what happened to being spanked?  I can remember being snatched up, swatted and made to sit quietly in the cart til Mom was done.  And I have no reservations doing the same to DD.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    The mom wasn't doing much when I saw her - trying to reason with the kid, mostly. "I know you don't want to, I'm sorry", etc. 

    And then in the store all I could hear was the kid. 

    <shrugs> Maybe it's Bacon's personality, but I have to make her world stop in order to discipline effectively sometimes. It was much, much more often when she was younger, and couldn't connect punishments that happened hours later to events in the store. You really do have to work around a small child's mental capabilities. A 2 or 3-y-o simply cannot understand that they're being put in time out for a tantrum they had twenty minutes ago. Some kids just need a talking-to right then and there, and some need everything to change. 
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