irrational wedding fears

amongthelilies25 · June 2011

does anyone else have any irrational wedding fears?
i am sooo worried there is going to be a drunken fight or something!
i dont know my FI's family at all (besides mom, and siblings) but all i have been hearing is how much they like to party (none of them are Christian)! on our invites it says "dinner and dancing reception to follow" and my FMIL said yesterday "ya.. the 3 d's dinner, dancing, and drunkeness."
i told her that i was having anxiety of a fight happening between like their family and mine - their response? "well my family would win."
hhmmm well that doesn't make me feel better.
lol... anyone else have a fear of the wedding?

StacyJenniges · June 2011

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[QUOTE]does anyone else have any irrational wedding fears? i am sooo worried there is going to be a drunken fight or something! i dont know my FI's family at all (besides mom, and siblings) but all i have been hearing is how much they like to party (none of them are Christian)! on our invites it says "dinner and dancing reception to follow" and my FMIL said yesterday "ya.. the 3 d's dinner, dancing, and drunkeness." i told her that i was having anxiety of a fight happening between like their family and mine - their response? "well my family would win." hhmmm well that doesn't make me feel better. lol... anyone else have a fear of the wedding?
Posted by amongthelilies25[/QUOTE]

Everything will be fine, I'm sure that no-one will get into a fight.

My irrational fear is that FI and his family which would include 2 grooms men, one bridesmaid, the officiant (His dad is a pastor) and most likely our reader will all be late. My FI and his family are late for pretty much everything, and the thing my dad hates the most is late people. So that is my irrational fear.

I just remind myself that my family and his family know that this is a very important day and they will do everything in their power to make sure that it goes smoothly and that they will respect my time line.

I'm sure your families will do the same.

Good Luck!

kellya01 · June 2011

LOL, I had the same thought when we decided to include wine and beer for the reception (FI's family is paying, we don't expect that many to partake, but some will). Anyway... I guess I do have one irrational wedding fear ... that I'll go to put on my dress and suddenly it doesn't fit, or my cat has found a way to get into it and rip it, etc.... yeah, sounds crazy, so I'm SUPER-paranoid about the garment bag (I check it every day to make sure the zipper is all the way closed)!!!

iamjoesgurl · June 2011

I had an irrational fear that someone would have a car accident either coming to the wedding or going home from the wedding. I was so worried about the weather and how that would affect their drives. I was worried about people having a few drinks and then driving home.

But everything turned out fine. Everyone made it to and from the wedding.

I think it is normal to have these irrational fears but in the end, they won't materialize.

sessionswedding · June 2011

I have a fear that no one will dance. We are having a dry wedding and the reception is in a church. We will have a DJ and dancing is allowed, but I'm afraid that everyone will be too afraid to dance and it will be boring and dead and end early.

Purple&7 · June 2011

I fear that people won't dance, half the guest list won't show up, and that my family will get into a fight. I guess I have a lot of fears about my wedding day.

LittleBigO · June 2011

I don't remember any irrational fears - I do know I was laid back when everything got shuffled or flipped 180. :P I guess my one major abnormal fear was that my bio dad and his wife would uninvitedly and unexpectantly show up. THAT was freaky. But it didn't happen, everything went rather smoothly (at least I feel that way) and we're married.

SuMmErKuTiE · June 2011

I don't remember having any irrational fears other than being late or my hair and makeup not being done before it was time for it to start. We did start late, but only because I felt sick while taking pictures before the ceremony due to the heat, my dress being laced up too tight, and not eating or drinking enough throughout the day. So ladies, please remember to eat and drink enough fluids no matter how busy and excited you are! (I thought I did.. there's even a picture of me with a bowl of fruit in my lap while getting my hair done)

Monica: Don't worry about people getting into a fight at your wedding, that is almost unheard of. Every wedding I have been to has been a full open bar and I have never witnessed anything close to a fight at a wedding or any other party for that matter. And if for some ridiculous unknown reason there is a fight, it won't reflect poorly on you, it'll reflect poorly on the classless people who allowed it to happen and blew a gasket for no reason. Just remember it's your wedding day, and enjoy every second of it because it goes by so quick!

ReebokJ · June 2011

Aside from my irrational fear that we won't have enough time for pictures, I'm also worried that my self-named "militant atheist" BM and the less-than-tactful "preacher-boy" best man, who haven't yet met, might raise their voices at each other during the rehearsal dinner. I've been praying for this BM since I started praying, and I'm so afraid that the heart-softening that God has begun in her will be undone. So I'm trying very hard to just trust Him for it. She lives in CA now, so I don't get to see her very much anymore. I see the wedding as a rare opportunity in that she'll be around more people who love Jesus at one time than perhaps ever before. Better news, there will in fact be a gospel presentation at the ceremony! So I guess long story short, will you all pray for my BM's salvation?

sessionswedding · June 2011

Praying!

AshNoel8 · June 2011

Sorry girl! My fear is that someone will get drunk or drink and drive (even though we are only having beer and wine and shutting it off after dinner- I still worry!) Also, it is FI's cousin's 21st birthday the day of our wedding, so I worry about that.

BUTTTT, we all know everything will be fine. Hence the term "irrational". haha.

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