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Father Daughter Dance But No Mother Son?

GardenMavenGardenMaven
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I have a dilema.  I am very close with my dad and he has been very active in both my life and my fiance's life.  However, my fiance's parents are basically strangers to both of us.  Yes he was raised by them, but they were never really around and that drastically affected his relationship with them.  (He actually asked me if we had to invite them....)  I have dreamed of my wedding complete with my dad walking me down the isle and dancing with him for the Father Daugther dance.  Would it be strange to have a Father Daughter dance, but no Mother Son dance?  

His parents will be there, so it could be awkward.  His mom probably wouldn't notice anything was amiss, but his dad would and he might say something.  Would there be any other way to honor my dad's role in my life without a dance?
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Re: Father Daughter Dance But No Mother Son?

  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    I would go ahead and share a dance with your dad if you want to. I would just mention it to your FI and see how he thinks his mom will react if he does not share a dance with her. I don't think his not having a good relationship with his parents should mean you have to forego a dance with your dad though.

    And FWIW, I've been to weddings with a F/D dance but no M/S dance, and no one found it odd.


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  • jcg98jcg98 member
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    I agree with PP. If your FI is ok with it, no reason for you to have to miss out on dancing with your dad.  Also consider doing it later in the reception, rather than the traditional "Grand Entrance - First Dance - Father/Daughter - Mother/Son".  You can have the DJ announce it as "the bride would like to share a dance with her father" and maybe have all the guests invited to join after a minute or two.  That might make it seem less like you are skipping the Mother/Son dance, more that you are honoring your dad with a special dance.

    p.s. - love the paintbrush in your avatar!  :-)
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  • catwinecatwine member
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    i've honestly only seen the mother son dance once.
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  • GardenMavenGardenMaven
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    Thank you for the feedback!  My FI and I have been to a lot of weddings together and the most recent one was for his cousin who had both a F/D dance and a M/S dance.  I guess that is what was weighing on my mind the most about skipping the M/S dance and having people notice.  His cousin's husband is very close with his parents though, so I can see why it was a natural choice for them.  I think I'll go ahead with the F/D dance.  I know it would mean a lot to my dad not to mention me as well.  :-)

    jcg98- Thanks!  My avatar is a wildflower a grew a few years ago.  It does look rather like a paintbrush, especially so small.  I am a little obsessed with taking close-ups of nature, so I picked one of those shots for my avatar.  
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  • kisskiss30kisskiss30
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    I think a daughter and father dance is more appropriatel anyway, never understood why the mother has to dance with her son.
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