October 2012 Weddings

cohabitating and invites

For all of you ladies who are living with your FI:
What are you putting as your RSVP return address-i heard its tacky and ill form to put both of your names on the return address-you know its like people say you should "pretend" to be old fashion and just put the brides only on return address like you aren't cohabitating before marriage.
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Re: cohabitating and invites

  • I put both. But then again I could care less about etiquette. ;)
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  • We put both our first names but not last names.  On the outer envelope, we are putting both of our full names.
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  • We are putting both names on ours.

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  • We put both our first names but not our last names.
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  • Well we aren't doing traditional RSVP's with a return address...we're just having them email or call by a date to let us know and I will probably just put our address with no names on the return part of the invitation.
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  • Ditto on both first and no last names
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  • Kristen627Kristen627 member
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    Same here -- first + first. My fiance and I live together and are footing the bill for our wedding, so they are addressed to us both at our home. Plus, we had our invites and envelopes letterpressed, so it was way cheaper to use the same plate for both the return address and RSVP cards.
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  • I put just my name on the RSVP. Not out of an avoidance of tacky but because that's how I've always seen it. I also figure that while FI cares, he'll end up giving them to me anyway since I'm the one keeping track of everything and doing most of the planning.
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  • we did my last | his last
  • We put both of our names.  I could care less what people think about us cohabitating before marriage.  We have been together for almost 10 years and it's no secret we live together.  If people don't like that we put both of our names on there-oh well...that's their problem.  I say just do what you want and feels right.
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  • Ha. I guess we are tacky. : I put both of our names. We are not old fashioned and I'm sure neither of our families will care.
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  • we put both of our first and last names. Everyone knows that we live together! We dont care either what people say!
  • I haven't decided yet.  I'll either ignore the etiquette and just put both names or put something like mylast - hislast wedding. 
  • I put just my first and last name.  I didn't do it because of etiquette though - just because I know I will be the one keeping track of the RSVPs, plus I liked the way it looked with one name and my FI didn't care whether he was on the evelope.

  • We put both. I don't think it's a big deal.
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  • I put my first and last name. I'm the one who will be handling it so it made sense to me.
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  • We actually just did both our first names, but not to be coy or anything, it was just the design of the labels we got. For the return address on our STDs, I think we put no names but because we were doing it by hand and lazy and that's more writing, ha. So I guess I unknowingly have sort of gotten around ettiquette? ;)
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  • We put both....well the design has two love birds with a B & a L in them.....so technically both of our "names".  I think it's silly to pretend

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  • I think for the return address on the back of invites I just put the address with no names. On the RSVPs I just put my name. It was easier and I figured that I was the one who would be keeping track.
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  • Ha! I didn't realize there was a "proper" way to do this, it's just an envelope! I just did his last name/my last name and address. 
  • I have not thought about the RSVP. We are co-habitatinf as well. I decided to order address labels for our return address (my handwriting functions well as mock calligraphy, however, we felt it could be difficult to read - this was the best compromise) on the wedding invitations. I may go with my name only on the RSVP for the reasons others havevlisted (ie I am coordinating!), and won't think twice if we use both our full names
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