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Invitation wording and update

Melissasm77Melissasm77
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I know these questions get posted daily, but I was hoping some of you wouldn't mind giving your opinion on the wording of my invites.  I feel like I am spinning my wheels and can't decide.  FH is unbaptized, so nonsacramental.

1. Parents name
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
bride name
and
groom name
Date
Location

2. Parents name
request the honor of your presence
at the wedding uniting their daughter
bride name
and
groom name
Date
Location

3. Parents name
request the honor of your presence
at the wedding uniting in marriage their daughter
bride name
and
groom name
Date
Location

I like the sound of # 2, but because I won't be using any phrase regarding the sacrament of holy matrimony, it feels unfinished.  Thoughts?

Many of you gave me helpful advice when I posted previously regarding marrying an unbaptized person.  Previous thread here: http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings

As an update, we spoke to our priest after mass and he didn't offer Casey an accelerated version of RCIA or baptism, but once again said that we could have him baptized in a protestant church.  We feel extremely uncomfortable with that.  We are sitting down with our priest on Monday, so we can talk more about it at that time. 
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Re: Invitation wording and update

  • bibliophile2010bibliophile2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    I actually like #1 the best. It feels the least awkward without being gramatically or theologically awkward. 

    Since you like #2 (and I agree that it sounds unfinished), what about using "in marriage" after FI's name where "in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony" would be. Remember, though, that the wedding doesn't unite you any more than a mass would. 

    I am proud of your stance to not seek non-Catholic baptism for your FI -- to me, that would feel hollow if he's seeking the Catholic sacraments. However, I will continue to pray that you guys find a satisfactory resolution to your situation.
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  • ring_popring_pop member
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    edited December 2011
    #2 and #3 are rather wordy and awkward.

    I like #1 the best.

    I gather from 2 and 3 that you might like the word "united" so here's an alternate idea"

    Your Parents
    request the honour of your presence
    as their daughter
    You
    and
    FI
    are united in marriage

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  • Melissasm77Melissasm77
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    edited December 2011

    Thank you for the ideas.  Sometimes it is hard to see the forest for the trees when I've been staring at invitation wording for too long.  I think we will go with number 1.

    Bibliophile-I appreciate your prayers.  I've had to do a lot of praying and reflecting over the past few weeks.  I've always known that we would be unable to have a nuptial mass, but I felt really shaken (and dumb) when I found out that it would not be sacramental.  After speaking with a our priest, praying, and discussing it with FH, I do feel better about it.  Given our age and circumstances, we are moving forward as planned.  Casey is a wonderful man who is committed to participating in RCIA and receiving the sacraments in the future.  Even before deciding that he would like to become catholic, he agreed to attend mass with and was 100% supportive of my desire that our children be raised as active catholics.  I have no doubt that he will continue to honor these commitments after we are married.

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    I like #1.

    And kudos to your FI for deepening his faith and being supporting you. Sounds like a great guy. RCIA is a great program. I went through it a few years ago (gosh, its been 2 years now since I started it). It was one of the best decisions for me.
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  • bibliophile2010bibliophile2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    You are more than welcome. I commend you and your FI -- for staying true to yourselves, and what you want for your family in the long term. My understanding is that once your FI is received into the church, your marriage will become sacramental, is that what you've been told?  I agree with MissySue that the RCIA process is extremely rewarding. I'm coming up on my 5th Anniversary in the Church, which is hard to believe, but a real blessing. Please keep us posted on how things go with your priest.
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  • Melissasm77Melissasm77
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_invitation-wording-update?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:615Discussion:9da99f8f-ed5c-4944-87dc-bea00b6f5239Post:f8347199-97f7-4107-b06b-f07593956f55">Re: Invitation wording and update</a>:
    [QUOTE]My understanding is that once your FI is received into the church, your marriage will become sacramental, is that what you've been told? Posted by bibliophile2010[/QUOTE]

    Yes, it will become sacramental at that time.  This is what really helped me to feel more at ease with our decision.  He should be well on his way by the time we have our first anniversary.
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  • clearheavensclearheavens member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_invitation-wording-update?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:9da99f8f-ed5c-4944-87dc-bea00b6f5239Post:b4a2d79b-f72f-45d0-a5d4-97abe551d732">Re: Invitation wording and update</a>:
    [QUOTE]#2 and #3 are rather wordy and awkward. I like #1 the best. I gather from 2 and 3 that you might like the word "united" so here's an alternate idea" Your Parents request the honour of your presence as their daughter You and FI are united in marriage
    Posted by ring_pop[/QUOTE]

    <div>I also like ring_pop's idea.</div><div>
    </div><div>I'll be praying for you.  Your desire to live a sacramental life is very commendable.  Not many Catholics see that marriage is a calling to love each other as God loves and that you marry this person because he or she is the one who will most likely help you enter Heaven.</div><div>
    </div><div>I hope it comforts you that your ceremony is centered on the Liturgy of the Word and will be witnessed by the Church.  Your parish will become your spiritual home as well as your FI's spiritual home throughout your marriage.  When your FI goes through the RCIA process, which is soon, your marriage will become a sacrament and you will enter into a covenant where your love is strengthened by God's love.</div>
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