Sorry in advance for the WOT but there's some back story here. . .
FSIL and FI are not currently speaking b/c FSIL is overreacting about something that occured on facebook of all places. She has also been very uncooperative with the BMs when they were planning the shower and bach party stuff. She came to the shower in Harrisburg that they planned but didn't really speak or interact with anyone not even when we were each introducing ourselves - her mother had to introduce her. She is 15 yrs older than FI so in some ways is like a mother more than a sister. Her two daughters are our FGs and apparently their dresses did not come in correctly and she didn't even let me know that. She said when they were getting altered that "something looked not right but she couldn't figure out what" - well isn't that when you make a phone call or even email me to make sure its correct? So back story is she is being difficult. . .
So, yesterday I overhead FMIL on the phone with a family member talking about alterations to FSIL's BM dress. So I asked when she got off the phone if there was an issue with her dress. Apparently, FSIL was planning to add something to the top of her dress. FMIL said she wasn't sure if she was adding something to the actual dress, or adding a shawl or jacket. But anyway, she hasn't mentioned any of it to me at all! Keep in mind that way back when we were picking out BM dresses I wanted them all to be comfortable so they are wearing different dresses and this is the dress that she said she liked and felt comfortable in. I was most concerned about her feeling good in the dress b/c she is a good amount older than us and more conscious about her body so I even went on a separate dress trip with her and we based the designer and fabric choice for the rest of the BM dresses off the one she picked. So now what do I do? How do I approach her about this?
I think the real issue may be that FI and I moved to MD and the rest of his whole extended family still lives in Pittsburgh so she secretly is blaming me for him moving away and the fact that the two of them aren't as close anymore, blah!
So please let me know what you would do! Thanks!