Not Excited About Dress Shopping

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• *Barbie* member

  

  October 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_not-excited-about-dress-shopping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:1d0d5dbe-166a-4b3b-b388-0499980eadddPost:dbe8febf-100b-4c1f-8158-8de2a88a8e73">Not Excited About Dress Shopping</a>:
  [QUOTE]Tomorrow my mom and I are going wedding dress shopping. And I don't even feel anxious or excited. I don't know if it's just me wanting to lose a little weight before I try some dresses on, or if it has anything to do with the stress of even planning a wedding (no matter how hard I try to make it stress free.)  I can't wait to be my fiance's wife, but so far this wedding is nothing but a huge pain in the neck. <strong>Am I the only one who's ever felt this way?</strong>
  Posted by mdupon70997[/QUOTE]
  yes

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• joleri23 member

  

  October 2012

  You're certainly not the only one who's ever felt this way, contrary to what *Barbie* said. Wedding planning is not as fun as everyone thinks it's going to be. For some people it's the be all, end all... and then there are those of us who don't care too much because we have our eyes on the prize: the marriage at the end of the day. I thought dress shopping was a pain in the ass. Trying on clothes is not fun anyway, but when you couple that with huge, fluffy, complicated dresses... yuck.
  
  The thing I asked myself when I first started planning was, "Will I regret not having a wedding party if I look back on this in twenty years?" I knew the answer was yes, so I'm doing it. If the answer is no for you, consider scaling back - go to city hall and get married and just have some sort of celebration afterward. Good luck!

  

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• redheadtmk member

  

  October 2012

  Dress shopping is not the easiest thing in the world. The less people with you to offer opinions the better. Dont get too discouraged... Each dress you try on and do not like, make sure to pay attention to any details you do like. For example, the neckline, material, color, rouching, etc. Deconstruct each dress a little bit... that is the best way to help you find dresses that you do like. And just for fun try on one completely rediculous, over the top, not your style dress. Take pictures!

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• warpedredpenguin

  

  October 2012

  I was excited to go get my dress (I had found it online and just needed to try it on to make sure) but was not excited about having to try on other dresses to appease my mother. It was hot, tiring, and mom kept getting tearful when I told her my heart was set on the plain, red dress and not the overwrought white ones she loved. Nothing wrong with those, they just aren't me. I'm a simplicity kind of person, my mother isn't. 

  
  

  It's not weird or wrong that your main focus is not "the dress", because it's not as big of a deal as the media and wedding industry want you to think it is. I loved my dress, and I was excited about it, but mostly because of what it represented, not for the dress itself. Maybe try to look at it that way? The dress you choose is what you're going to be wearing when you marry the man you love. Might help a little. Good luck!

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• joleri23 member

  

  October 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_not-excited-about-dress-shopping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:1d0d5dbe-166a-4b3b-b388-0499980eadddPost:fb92b69b-2210-4aa3-b165-cbfc0e275b08">Re: Not Excited About Dress Shopping</a>:
  [QUOTE]Dress shopping is not the easiest thing in the world. The less people with you to offer opinions the better. Dont get too discouraged... Each dress you try on and do not like, make sure to pay attention to any details you do like. For example, the neckline, material, color, rouching, etc. Deconstruct each dress a little bit... that is the best way to help you find dresses that you do like. And just for fun try on one completely rediculous, over the top, not your style dress. Take pictures!
  Posted by redheadtmk[/QUOTE]
  
  Great advice! Actually, that ridiculoud, over the top, not your style dress ended up being the one I picked so hey, it never hurts to try it on.

  

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• 23BRIDE2B

  

  October 2012

  No way.. I'd say this is totally normal.. at least for me... HAHA. I not only was not excited about dress shopping.. but I was actually dreading it. I love my fiance and am extremely happy and excited to get married, but I am not a shopper. I hate trying on clothes and also wanted to lose a lil weight. Normally, i really don't like the way I look in anything and I assumed this would be the same and I would just feel discouraged. I also knew I would have to go shopping with my mother or it would hurt her feelings and she can be pretty negative about other clothing so I assumed this would be no different.
  However, I was pleasantly surprised to see that I actually loved/liked (depending on the dress.. haha) the way I looked in these dresses and it was kinda fun. Some of the dresses are totally ridiculous, and like they said earlier I recommend taking pictures of these and having fun with it. I also agree with do not take a lot of ppl.. I went once with my best friend, my mom and future mother in law and another time I went alone.. which was the best time!  I honestly think going alone was the best idea ever and that is when I picked out my dress. By going alone once you are forced to be completely honest with how you feel about each dress and it is so much easier to pick the one when no one else's opinions are being taken into account. Your going to look beautiful not just because of the dress, make up, hair.. blah blah but because of the way YOU feel, not your mom, sister, best friend.. whatever. So when the ppl you love see how you look and feel in your dress they will think your beautiful. Plus, going alone = absolutely no drama/ ppl trying to contribute unwanted opinions.. haha.

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• ReturnOfKuus member

  

  October 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_not-excited-about-dress-shopping?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:1d0d5dbe-166a-4b3b-b388-0499980eadddPost:2f7699e5-bee0-4d35-9502-94b4808e3bc7">Re: Not Excited About Dress Shopping</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Not Excited About Dress Shopping : yes
  Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]
  
  Barbie, you liar!
  
  Wedding planning isn't fun.  Neither, IMO, is clothing shopping.  Put them together and you have a situation that is only slightly more fun than peeling off your skin and rolling around in salt.

  

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• mdupon70997 member

  

  November 2012

  Thanks to everyone (with the exception of *Barbie*...way to help a fellow bride out.) I ended up going dress shopping with my mom the very next day. It was terrible for the first hour or so. But then, after about 8 dresses, I found it. And I wasn't sure the first time I put it on. But it ended up being perfect. It took the consultant telling me to close my eyes, imagine our ceremony, imagine my fiance at the altar, and me coming down the aisle in that dress. That was is! That was all it took! And I can't wait to get it in.

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