Ok so my boyfriend and I are talking about getting married so we joined this sight. I have pretty much all my ideas of my wedding figured out but there is one thing I am so confused about my heart vs. the "right thing" ??? I lived with my father for my high school years until a few months before graduation. We had a huge falling out and I left. Right before graduation I swallowed my pride and gave him tickets to my graduation and asked if he was still coming. He took the tickets and said yes. At my ceremony there was no father of mine in sight and I cried all throughout my special day. 3 years went by until we spoke again and it was only after another family member told him I was expecting my first child and he better step up and be a father to me. We spoke on and off again for 3 years until after I had my second child. Since having my second child (who will be 6 soon) I have only seen my father 5 times. Last time I seen him I called and said im coming over, It was fathers day of 2011. I took fathers day gifts we had a picnic etc. The day was good. And then nothing. He has my phone number, my email, my physical address and I dont hear from him. I finally got to point where why should I keep trying when he shows little interest as a relatioship goes both ways? Anyways this brings me to my dillemma. Do I invite him and allow him to do the fathers job and have the privildge of walking me down the isle or not? What I really want is not to invite him and have my godfather give me away. However then I think what if one day he comes to his senses and we develop a better relationship and he sees photos of someone else doing it, it will crush him...... ugh help!!!! What is the right thing to do??????