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toasts-when and what order?

VeittobeVeittobe member
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in Minnesota-Minneapolis and St. Paul
I have a question about the wedding toasts.  

When do you usually start them?  Before dinner?  After dinner?  Between the salad and the main course? 

Once they start, what order do they go in?  Do the bride and groom give their thankyou speech after the other toasts or do they go first?

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Re: toasts-when and what order?

  • tpender13tpender13 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know if there's a "rule" for doing this, but they're usually done while people are eating. I would think that the other toasts should go first, then you and H can say something at the end.
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  • shan87shan87
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    edited December 2011

    We are doing toasts between Salad and Main Course. The last wedding I was at it seemed like there was quiet a bit a time inbetween.

    We are having BM go than MOH and any other WP ppl. Than FI and I will thank everyone (but we may move it until after dinner- depends)

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  • wittyschaffywittyschaffy member
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    edited December 2011
    It depends on the number of toasts and your reception venue I think.  We had a lot of toasts because we didn't designate "best man" and "maid of honor".  My dad introduced our pastor right before dinner service and he said grace.  Then when the soup course was being bussed, my dad did his, followed by my FIL who surprised us by deciding to say something at the last second.  While the salad was being cleared, my sisters gave a joint toast, followed by a toast each from the groomsmen (2 total).  We were done by main course.  We opted not to say anything because there were already so many people saying stuff.

    Our reception vendor suggested the order for ours, and actually the pace of dinner service was dictated by the speeches.  The head server took their cue for serving/bussing by when people were talking.  I have been to several weddings where they didn't toast until just before cake service and that always seemed like it was too late to me.
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  • brimavenbrimaven member
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    edited December 2011
    You pretty much can do them whenever you want. We are doing ours during the cake time. I have been to a wedding where the bride's dad gave a 20 minute speech at the begining, and another after dinner and then all the wedding partymembers did one each (14 of 'em) and it was just WAY too much. We are having both our dads, and the MOH and Best Man, and that's it. We are also telling everyone to keep it short.
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