Crazy article

cnf2013 · May 2012

Have any of you seen this yet?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sandy-malone/what-to-do-if-your-maid-of-honor_b_1510775.html?icid=maing-grid7%7Cmain5%7Cdl24%7Csec3_lnk1%26pLid%3D160754

What are your thoughts? I found it to be brazen and very bridezilla-y. I can't imagine ever picking my wedding party based on who can afford to take me on week long bachelorette parties and pay for $300 BM dresses. I feel bad enough that the BM dresses I'm considering after the first round of shopping are in the $150 range. I plan on doing costume jewelry and off brand shoes to off set the cost. I can't imagine making them pay more than $200 for EVERYTHING. Our hair is being done by a family friend whose a cosmetologist and in return I'm paying for her hotel room for the weekend. I'd never ask them to help me with that.

As a bride, I do have a specific image in mind for my wedding. But I also understand compromising to have a wedding that Fi and myself, and our WP, can afford. Picking a wedding party based on wallet size over friendship and relationship seems so entitled.

sparkles776 · May 2012

That is definitely a crazy article. The gist I got from it was to make sure you have a financially stable MOH and bridal party? lol. I think that is so wrong. One of my BMs is a single mother, and she has been one of my best friends for over 10 years, I cant imagine her not being there, but I know it will be hard for her to stand up. I gave her the option, I told her I understood completely if she couldnt afford it, but she really wants to, she was the very first person I asked, even before I asked my MOH because I wanted to give her plenty of time to save up.

I would never have my BMs take me on a getaway for my bachelorette. I would feel really uncomfortable having my friends pick up my tab, that is just way too much. I am perfectly fine just having a fun day and night with my BP.

I agree, as a bride you definitely have a look in mind for your wedding. I told my girls the dress will absolutely be under 200 and hopefully a lot lower than that, I will specify a shoe color and then they can pick whatever shoe they want in their price range.

bar10521 · May 2012

I agree that woman came off none too pleasant and kind of money grabby/bridezilla-y. I didn't pick my girls because they could afford a designer gown and to take me away for a week, which is so beyond ridiculous, I chose them because I can't imagine anyone else standing next to me when I get married. I know it's expensive to be a BM, especially if you're in more than 1 wedding. I'm basically giving my girls the length and color of their dress and they can pick a style/price that suits them. Shoes & jewelry are the same thing, wear a certain color and something you're comfortable buying/wearing all night. I don't expect them to get their hari/makeup/nails done I will certainly book if for anyone who wants to but it gets expensive so if they can't afford it (& I can't afford to pay for it) they can do their own if they'd like.

I can't imagine being in someone's wedding who wanted me to buy designer everything and the bachelorette party was a week in some exotic location. Even though you're the bride you can't expect people to go broke over your wedding.

blferguson1s · May 2012

I agre with you ladies. That article is ridiculous. I'm in college, as are all three of my BM's so Lord knows we don't have tons of money to spend on this stuff. I'm getting my dress at DB (as of now) and hope I can get my girls a great deal on dresses. $100 is the absolute max I would even consider asking them to pay for a dress. I know they're on a tight budget so I hate expecting them to pay for anything at all.

I read through the comments at the bottom of the article, and most of them seem to agree with us. I want to be a princess, but not at the expense of my friends.

belle7fl · May 2012

I agree, that article is nuts! I would never choose my BP based on how much they can spend. My sister is my Matron of Honor, her oldest daughter, my 22yr old niece is my MOH and her youngest daughter is the flower girl, that means my sister is responsible for 3 people (since my oldest niece is in school and doesn't work). I feel horrible and will be purchasing all the jewelry and probably the little ones dress and whatever else she needs. I will also be making sure everyone is happy with their hair, makeup, and nails. If they want to get them done I will take care of it. I don't have a large budget but I want to make sure all my girls are happy because they all mean so much to me and are so supportive. On another note, I find that show Say Yes to the Dress Bridesmaids is also insane, the way some of the bridesmaids treat the bride is insane to me.

bar10521 · May 2012

bell I aree on the say yes to the dress bridesmaids. One woman I saw expected her girls to buy designer gown and shoes that cost $1200!!! When she was talking about the girls she asked who couldn't afford it she said that they just "couldn't keep up". I wanted to reach through the tv and slap her!

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