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Quick Ettiquette Question ( Gift=Invite?)

Dannibear86Dannibear86
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Does a gift automatically equal an Invite?

Do you feel the need to invite random people who are giving you gifts?

 Example FI's neighbors just asked where we are registered and under what name bc they want to give us a gift. We are only on a "hey how are you" basis w/ each other.

I was coming outside of FI's house and his neighbor was just like "where are you registered" so I told him thinking he was just making small talk and he is like ok well I need you to write down the name its under and we will get you guys something nice. Of course I said it wasn't necessary and all of that but he seemed pretty adamant about getting something. I haven't written down our names yet and I am kind of hesitant about it as well, but if he asks me again I guess I will do it just so we don't have to do that dance every time I see him.

So now I am wondering if they give us a gift do we now have to invite them even though it would be awkward for everyone involved?

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  • MrsJenretteMrsJenrette
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    Not at all.. I actually recieved a card with money at for my wedding from someone that wasn't even in my thoughts let alone my invitation list!

    She wrote her address in the card, and so when I send out my thank you cards she will be among the people receiving one for her gift to us.

    It was a bit weird.. because she knew she wasn't invited... but some people just feel like showering you with something, with out the expectation.

    On the other hand, if you feel like it will make things weird between you guys then by all means send an invite.. you may be surprised.. they may not even be able to make it.. but it's just the thought that counts.
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  • M1ssJM1ssJ member
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    Nope. There are some of my moms co workers and such sending us gifts but I am not planning to invite them. I will send a lovely thank you card with a wedding picture
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  • rowenac82rowenac82 member
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    This is a toughy..I have had some random, "where are you registered" comments from folks I have no intention of inviting. And I have just said we haven't yet (not the truth). In my mind, you don't have to invite someone if they take it upon themselves to buy you a gift. But I could understand how you might feel obligated. Just hope he doesn't ask again:-/
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  • NshiversNshivers
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_quick-ettiquette-question-giftinvite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:a60a7637-b16e-4d3f-9338-fe1ed9ec5152Post:15ad5644-5370-4303-a033-542795bf65d2">Re: Quick Ettiquette Question ( Gift=Invite?)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Nope. There are some of my moms co workers and such sending us gifts but I am not planning to invite them. I will send a lovely thank you card with a wedding picture
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  • staten2012staten2012
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    No if someone knows of your wedding and offers a gift you are not obligated to send an invite. But as previous poster's have mentioned I would make sure to send thank you cards to all those who buy a gift.
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  • thedivavthedivav member
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    we are doing a destination wedding so no
    the guest list is going to be small 
    more will be invited to the party *not recption* we are doing in MD

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