Colour suggestions needed, please.

Hallanole · March 2012

So a little background; my family is exceptionally young compared to FI's family. I have a soon to be 11 year old DD, I'm 31, my mom is 47, my nana is 66.
Nana isn't in the best of shape after she had chemo and it reacted badly to her. She has already had 2 knee replacements a few years back and has really bad feet.

Well, I took out Nana yesterday to look at second hand MOB stuff to find a lovely pant suit for her. She is telling me there she just needs a top, she has some slacks, from what she described, they are black with a sheer chiffon like black layer over. No biggie to me. I'm not caring what she wears.... until she tells me what colour she is looking for.

My BM's are in a soft butter yellow. Mom is holding off as she is going for gastric bypass on Wed. Dad is wearing a butter yellow shirt with tux he owns.

Nana tells me "I'm looking for lemon yellow." Eeeek! Lemon yellow and black pants??!!! No no no! My GM's are only wearing a yellow tie to blend colour cause I hate yellow and black together and think bumble bees. The artist in me is screaming to not allow this.

Do I just let her find a Lemon yellow top and just wear it and so be it or shall I suggest other colours more firmly? And what colours for the Nana of the Bride as she is going to be insisting on a 4 generation picture and I want it to look nice and be hung up with pride.

CN: 66 year old nana is wanting Lemon yellow top and black pants. BM's are in soft butter yellow. Wanting different colour to not have Bee effect as there will be a request for 4 generations together for formal picture to be hung with pride.

bridetobe71412 · March 2012

I guess my question is, does it REALLY matter what she wears? Are you worried for photos? If so, realize that there are literally all of three or four permutations of photos that she'll be in and it won't be that big of a deal if she's in a different yellow. If she doesn't mind being a bumble bee, I don't think it's that big of a deal.

To answer your question, I'd say yes, let her wear whatever yellow she wants.

FTR, my mom is wearing a dark purple, my FMIL is wearing light blue, and my grandmother is wearing aqua. My girls are in champagne. My colors are blush pink, light peach, champagne, ivory, gold, bronze, etc. It's going to be a veritable rainbow, but who cares? If they are happy, I'm happy, and honestly, they won't be in that many photos together anyway.

butterflyjumper1 · March 2012

I think, honestly, your grandmother should be able to wear what she feels comfortable and happy in. You are lucky that she will be able to attend your wedding and that she cares enough to go out shopping to find a new outfit! It sounds like it will be complementary to your color scheme anyway, and no one is going to compare your sweet grandma to a bumblebee.

Honestly, everyone that is going to be in all of your pictures is going to be wearing different random colors. There is no way to color code all of your cousins, aunts, etc. that you are going to want to have in photos.

Hallanole · March 2012

The bumble bee thing makes me cringe. Like fingernails on a chalk board cringe.

My mother was previously going to wear a soft yellow floral dress and still thinking of getting a yellow dress. My daughter will be in the BM's dress of soft butter yellow. Then Nana in black and yellow.

I am worried of the 1 photo because it's a big deal photo with my grandmother. I will never hear the end of it. I am seeing me with my daughter in a soft yellow, mom in a floral yellow and nana in neon yellow. Then if it looks bad, Nana will have no qualm about griping to me about it cause I should of told her to wear something different. (I got an earful when I didn't stand in front of her properly at my cousin's wedding for an informal picture.)

I guess too with everyone plotting to wear yellow, I'm getting really sick of the colour and in my head it was only supposed to be for the BM's as my flowers are daisies with a yellow center.

bridetobe71412 · March 2012

I guess then if you see it being a problem after the fact, why not just mention it to her right now? If she's like, "Oh, it'll be fine", then you're off the hook. Problem solved.

Melissa.hylton · March 2012

Find her a top and then take her to see it. People tend to see a color in their head and dont realize what it actually looks like on. Sometimes seeing tge option of tge 2 colors may change your mind

Nati05 · March 2012

Whether you suggest a different color to nana I guess depends on how much this is really about nana possibly getting upset about what she's wearing in the picture...or how much is about you despising the bumble bee look. You know your nana better than anyone here, so if you truly know that she will be pissed to see she's a shade off from everyone else then say something to her. You could just mention that everyone else is wearing butter yellow amd you know how much she likes to mesh well with the group. If she considers she will still look awesome in lemon yellow next to all those butter yellows, then so be it lol. But if she hates the idea, then you know you've done the right thing, she'll pick a different color and everyone will be happy. But if this more about you hating black and yellow, I'd be careful not to offend her taste by suggesting a different color. GL!

Elinetrouwt · March 2012

Find her a yellow top in a shop that has all kinds of tops, select a few in other colors. Then take her there and let her try a few on, in yellow and different colors. Let her make a decision, give her advice about what looks good.

Or if it's the black and yellow that bothers you, buy her a beige skirt/pants, or whatever color works with yellow.

I can see that you don't want everyone to wear yellow, but in the end, it really won't matter. Try to decorate in different colors.

Madisonpenny · March 2012

I sooooo don't understand some of you girls with wanting family members to wear certain colors or certain shades of colors.. For example do you honestly think that just because someone is wearing a blue dress (lets say MOB for instance) while your wedding colors are yellow and green that it's really going to ruin your photos?
Seriously? I bet in 5 years from now anyone who is acting this way are going to look back and they won't be saying "I can't believe mom wore blue on my wedding day" instead they are going to say "I can't believe I was acting like a crazy person".
and BTW OP I think lemon yellow and black will look awesome together, but thats just my opinion. Also for what it's worth.. you said she's 66 years old right? Well I'm pretty sure she knows how to dress herself she's been doing it for close to 60 yrs. so just let her be.

bridetobe71412 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]I sooooo don't understand some of you girls with wanting family members to wear certain colors or certain shades of colors.. For example do you honestly think that just because someone is wearing a blue dress (lets say MOB for instance) while your wedding colors are yellow and green that it's really going to ruin your photos? Seriously? I bet in 5 years from now anyone who is acting this way are going to look back and they won't be saying "I can't believe mom wore blue on my wedding day" instead they are going to say "I can't believe I was acting like a crazy person". and BTW OP I think lemon yellow and black will look awesome together, but thats just my opinion. Also for what it's worth.. you said she's 66 years old right? Well I'm pretty sure she knows how to dress herself she's been doing it for close to 60 yrs. so just let her be.
Posted by Madisonpenny[/QUOTE]

Agree with all of this.

Hallanole · March 2012

Well I guess I didn't convey myself properly. The colours black and neon lemon yellow that she is talking about make me cringe. It immediately makes me think bumble bees. I admit, I do not like at all. It's my opinion.

And no, my nana, I love her dearly, but she cannot dress at all. She cannot apply makeup either. Then when she sees pictures, I have to listen to all the nasty comments. This is a woman that will repeat as her mother did and pen out her face in pictures if she thinks she looks bad after the fact.

She will insist on a 4 generation picture as she always does this for any possible moment. I was merely trying to find something for her to wear to prevent negative comments that I Know will be coming.

I know I cannot control things, I'm not stupid. I am completely not a bridezilla. I'm merely looking for suggestions for possible colours that would be appropriate for an older woman to wear for a wedding.

And as a side note, my grandparents are all sorts of ticked off that I didn't have my wedding at the Elks lodge and I'm having a fancier event. I have to listen to a daily dose of how stupid I am for spending money. How I shouldn't of paid more then $100 for my wedding dress, how I can print out my invites like a flyer, ect.

My grandfather is Archie Bunker in every sense and nana is sooooo Archie's wife and toss in loads of negative not ditzy all will be okay.

I love my family and as everyone's family does, they drive us nuts. But I can only handle so much bitchfest and negativeness. I was trying to help her more then tell her this is the colour you wear or else.

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