Here's the deal...my FI is part Puerto-Rican and so he has a large immediate and extended family. He has 1 full sister and 8 half-siblings, plus half aunts/uncles, full aunts and uncles, etc...my FI and I both agreed that all siblings, all aunts and uncles, and first cousins would be invited. I also have a decent size extended family....however, my worry with his side is that his mom has repeatedly said that Puerto Ricans don't RSVP and that they tend to bring their children to every family event whether the invitation included them or not. We are having some children-our daughter and FI's immediate family (so half siblings) and first cousins who are under 18, but that is the cut-off. So now I have this thought running through my head of who will show up, but not have RSVP'd, LOL.
However, I will say that when we had our baby shower only his 1 cousin from the puerto rican side showed up which was surprising considering how much my FMIL tried to prepare me for how things were done regarding Puerto Rican events. I was kinda irritated the my FMIL wanted to invite all of them again when they didn't bother to come to our baby shower, but whatever. I will say that of those who didn't show, not a single one called to say that they wouldn't make it-they just didn't show. I did forwarn my FMIL that she will need to put the word out about no kids and I have a feeling I'm going to have to ask her to track down RSVP's too....sigh
Sorry-has anyone else experienced this?
Also, if people bring additional guests or children to the wedding that they did not RSVP for or were not even invited-how does one handle that? lol