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Bridesmaid Drama

lscot84lscot84 member
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I'm 17 days out from my wedding and stressed out to the max.  My job is becoming unbearable, but my bridesmaids are even worse.  I had 4 bridesmaids in all.  1 bridesmaid didn't show up to my bridal shower even though she stays one block over.  She then calls me this week saying that she didn't get back enough money on her taxes so she won't be able to make it to the wedding because she can't afford a hotel room and the shoes for the dress.  All this after I have already purchased everyone's gifts. I decided not to make a big problem out of it even though she beeged me to be in the wedding.

My maid of honor is a girl i have known for 10 years.  It was hard to choose my maid of honor because her and 1 of my other bridesmaids are really my closet friends.  Erica ended up with the honor because I figured she had the most time on her hands and would be able to help with the shower and bachelorette party.  My other bestfriend is in her last semester of nursing school so I knew she would be very busy.  Back on November 2, 2012 i gave Erica an email with all the emails and phone numbers of the other girls and possible suggestions for the bachelerette party.  I told her they would help her plan the shower.  Erica NEVER contacted my bridesmaids and my mom ended up planning the shower by herself.  Erica recently started  complaining because my wedding is Easter weekend and this is her "money" weekend, since she does hair.  Ive let these comments slide, but its starting to make me mad.  The two other girls came to me and told me that they felt left out because they didn't know what was going on.  They had even tried to contact Erica and she didn't call them back.  One of my other bridesmaids took it upon herself last week to plan a party and consulted my mom and the other maids as well.  When she finally talked to Erica she acted as if every suggestion would cost too much or that I wouldn't like it.  SHe always had negative comments. I'm seriously thinking about making the other girl my maid of honor.  She texts me at least every other day to see if there is anything she can help me with.  Erica hasn't asked me once the entire time. I hadn't even heard from her in the past 2 weeks. I was even told that Erica plans on going shopping the Friday before the wedding with one of my other family members since they will be in ATL.  Friday is the one day when Im sure im going to need her help with the small things. Am I wrong for wanting to change my MOH?
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Re: Bridesmaid Drama

  • tirathemrstirathemrs member
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    Nope in my opinion if you don't want the position I'd be more than happy to pass it to someone else that's willing to do the job....don't let that stress you honey! You only need yourself, your FI and the Pastor and a witness the hell with those that don't want to cooperate....but I would definitely try and talk to them to let them knw how I feel! HTH

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  • MrsBad13MrsBad13 member
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    In Response to Re:Bridesmaid Drama:[QUOTE]Nope in my opinion if you don't want the position I'd be more than happy to pass it to someone else that's willing to do the job....don't let that stress you honey! You only need yourself, your FI and the Pastor and a witness the hell with those that don't want to cooperate....but I would definitely try and talk to them to let them knw how I feel! HTH Posted by misstira[/QUOTE]

    I agree. These BMs are something else. They have no consideration what so ever. I feel your pain.
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  • LeciaBLeciaB member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_bridesmaid-drama-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:e2c0cb01-1ef0-4d8d-9572-cbbbaa38f019Post:81869a7c-19fd-4b16-bf35-ae4801cf66dd">Re: Bridesmaid Drama</a>:
    [QUOTE]Nope in my opinion if you don't want the position I'd be more than happy to pass it to someone else that's willing to do the job....don't let that stress you honey! You only need yourself, your FI and the Pastor and a witness the hell with those that don't want to cooperate....but I would definitely try and talk to them to let them knw how I feel! HTH
    Posted by misstira[/QUOTE]

    This !!!

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  • leatbaleatba member
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    I would be pissed. At this point in the game everything should be taken care of not adding stress. She would get demoted for sure.
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  • lscot84lscot84 member
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    Thanks guy!!!

    I tried talking to her and she said that she forgets things alot and needs to be reminded. With that being said I don't have time to remind people of these things.
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