at a loss..what would you do?

ivedonethisb4 · May 2012

So my sister is supposed to be one of my bridesmaids and she has not yet went looking for her dress. She keeps saying she has just been too busy to get over to DB. Well DB had told me they needed to order so I kept asking and reminding her around the time and she kept saying don't stress it will get done etc. Now I feel like she ignores my emails and txts. Like I'm very frustrated because she is important to me and I want her there. She lives 9 hours away and I don't really know what's going on in her life so I don't want to be an annoying little sister but HELLO its getting close! I don't know how to handle the situation or get her motivated..what would you do?

achiduck · May 2012

I would get her on the phone so she can't ignore you and let her know that she has to order a dress by X date or you'll order it for her and she's stuck with whatever you pick.

kitty02kat · May 2012

I told my sister, who pulled the same crap, that if she didn't order she wouldn't need to worry about standing at the front with me. If it's not important enough to order your dress than it's not important enough to be in the WP. (all this is of course granting she's not literally having a life crisis.)

Don't make someone a priority when you're only a convenience for them. Family or not- that's my thought. (can you tell my sister and I are not close at all!?!?!)

That being said, I also got my mom to remind/ask her about it too.

kimm260 · May 2012

Could you call her and maybe talk to her about what is going on in her life? Leave all wedding stuff out of it. Maybe she has something going on and she really can't get to DB.

If it makes you feel better about ordering, DB pressured me to get all my girls to order becuase the dress would take 8 weeks to come in. This was like maybe a month ago. My sister ordered hers and it came in a week and a half ago. I think, honestly, your sister still has some time before its 'too late' to order.

fishinflagrl · May 2012

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[QUOTE]I told my sister, who pulled the same crap, that if she didn't order she wouldn't need to worry about standing at the front with me. If it's not important enough to order your dress than it's not important enough to be in the WP. (all this is of course granting she's not literally having a life crisis.) :) Don't make someone a priority when you're only a convenience for them. Family or not- that's my thought. (can you tell my sister and I are not close at all!?!?!) That being said, I also got my mom to remind/ask her about it too. :)
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I did the same thing with my sister. She is irresponsible and just a royal pain in the @$$ and her and I do not get along at all. She ended up never ordering it or ever really caring. Unfortunately, I went and bought the dress and told her she owes me money...and I know this is not supposed to EVER happen, but I demoted her from MOH to a BM and asked my best friend who I wanted to stand by my side in the first place. I was trying not to rock the boat with my mom and her...I just am done with it. Neither one of them have my wedding or life as a priority and arent paying so screw em. Anywho...I would just give her a date and have your parents get on her about it too. It is frustrating.

ivedonethisb4 · May 2012

See that's the thing its totally UNLIKE my sister. She is the super mommy, responsible one! I know there's a lot going on in her life but she won't talk to me about it. For example: she is married and lives with her husband. He is a lowlife druggie who doesn't work. I can't remember the last time he had a job. Well my sister said that because my neice is only 2 she'd rather him not work and not have a daycare bill. He is like really overprotective and doesn't like my sister or neice to see her family unless we come visit. I think he's afraid she will leave and not come back....I would! Needless to say both their FB statuses say SINGLE. His even says something like looking for women or something. So appearantly SOMETHING is going on but she shrugs it as nothing. She won't even reply to non wedding related stuff!

shoebie · May 2012

She needs to do it now and you need to be annoying n tell her that. She can order online and have ti shipped to her.... My last bm ordered this sat and they told her it will be in Aug 29th she waits any longer shes going to be cutting it to close

goatlady12 · May 2012

Blow up her phone, FB, email and all other forms of communication. Be super annoying. People get really annoyed when you call, leave a VM and then text them. Be obnoxious, I had to be. My bridesmaids were a royal pain, it sucks but you gotta be a zilla sometimes.

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