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South Asian Weddings
SonaliPop
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One part of Indian weddings you don't like
So, what's the one tradition or part of Indian weddings you can't stand?
For me...
1. When your wedding reception looks like someone's talent show.
2. The tradition of standing in the mandap and waiting for EVERY individual family to come take a photo with you.
We are doing neither.
If we had particularly skilled friends who could dance or sing, we'd have them in it. But so and so's child and her friends from dance class will not be doing a 'Rang De' version of their own.
For me...
1. When your wedding reception looks like someone's talent show.
2. The tradition of standing in the mandap and waiting for EVERY individual family to come take a photo with you.
We are doing neither.
If we had particularly skilled friends who could dance or sing, we'd have them in it. But so and so's child and her friends from dance class will not be doing a 'Rang De' version of their own.
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Re: One part of Indian weddings you don't like
Every wedding I attended, an hour or more goes by where bride and groom are just taking pictures and the rest of the guests are just bored out of their mind. We also decided we are not going to do that with everyone. Its just too long.
I have also noticed that there are always guests who do not just look and follow the signs. Like when there is a assigned seating/reserved table. I just wonder if they choose to ignore this stuff.
I am sure there are more, but I gotta run. Maybe I will post some later. LOL.
-yes def. dislike the extra long picture session with all the guests present, def. wont do that!
-I have two friends(choreographers) dancing, which sort of are story/dance type things..so I am excited to see that, I think as long its 2-3 performances (5min max) its ok..
-Haha, have to say not looking forward to dealing with inlaws that day, I think i will let my bridesmaids and groomsmen deal with them..I dont want to question answer on the day
We gotta do a what things we like topic too, will keep me motivated during this crazy time of planning...at this point my nights are sleepless, if I do sleep I have dreams of things I need to do..and I never thought I would be so into this stuff.
-nicky
- And when people think the rules don't apply to them
- I also don't like how no matter what people will find something wrong about your wedding to talk about. We always hate on eachother worse then others ever could.
- This is experience from my sisters wedding, but there are always some family members that feel like they want to be important so they will try to run the show the day of the wedding!! I was soooo irritated with that and I hope my sisters just take care of them cause I dont' want to have to.
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It's sad because Indians want so badly not to offend anyone. My cousin and his wife had keep their wedding 'small' at 400 people. They had to FIGHT to do that.
If you look around and someone says, "Oh! I haven't seen you since you were THIS small"...they should not be at your wedding.
That reaaaaaaaaaallllllly upsets me.
OR, inviting the aunty and uncle who your parents can't stand because you "have to". I can't stand them, anyway! Why do they need to be there?
I HATE the tradition of, upon reaching your in laws house, having to 'show' what your parents sent with you - your trousseau. I think it's inappropriate and it almost says, "My parents love me THIS much"...I prefer to keep those things private. If my sisters in law and Mother in law want to see, great. I am all for it. But my parents gifts to me are not to be displayed to anyone...it's a personal thing. I do not care if my parents give me a ton of choices and outfits and spend a ton of money or they spend a modest amount. I consider it a more personal thing.
I didn't even know we were suppose to do that, I told my FI he must have gotten the tradition wrong. That just seem so wrong, but I asked my mom and she said that's how it was and all I could do was WTF? Then I remembered when my cousin was getting ready they had a bedroom that held all of the bride's trousseau, and the guests were coming and looking at it like it was a museum piece or something that you walk by it. That was exactly my thought that we love our daughter this much and we want you to see it for yourself.
Kavita - I am trying to keep the guest list under 200 and believe me I had to force to cut my parent's guest list so much. They had so many people I haven't seen since I was 10!!! I don't think I can recognize them aside from my super bad memory when it comes to people. Believe me, I don't get along with my cousins, if I could cut that whole family out, I would have done so if my dad was okay with it. I was willing to marry out of state/country if it meant avoiding them on my wedding. These are just people who are vicious and can't be happy when they see someone else happy and have to ruin it. Why would I want people who would probably wish me ill on my wedding day? But I guess we do it for our parents.
Seriously though, as much as I complain, I always hear from other people that they think Indian weddings are a blast, so it can't be all bad. However, if I have a daughter, I will definitely let her have more control when she gets married!
But I do agree with the talking during the ceremony. Since Im Christian and asked my fiance about why its not rude to talk during your ceremonies. He said, its just always relaxed. But I would really like guests to be curteous and not chat during our ceremony especially since my entire side will find that as odd, since traditionally you are quiet at a church.
Pictures after ceremony: I never realized that was so long. Since friends usually step out for lunch or hangout.
thats just my .02