too high-end for a young couple?

nanderson09 · July 2010

FI and I LOVE to cook and grill, so he is set on registering at Williams-Sonoma. I love their stuff too, but my only concern is that it might be rude for us to register at a high-end store like that. If it's too expensive for us to shop there on our own, then how could we expect others to shop there for us? We are also pretty young (23 and 26), and I think that we haven't quite 'graduated' from target yet, if you know what I mean:)

If we did register at WS, we would definitely balance it out with a second registry at a cheaper store like target or something. What do you ladies think...is a Williams-Sonoma registry appropriate for a young couple?

Brie2010 · July 2010

I think you're fine as long as you make sure you have gifts at all price points on both registries. Nobody HAS to buy off it; if people can't afford it, they won't buy it. Registries are wish lists.

ag2037 · July 2010

I agree with PP. Also bear in mind that you're registering for things you're going to have for a very long time. You may not have "graduated" from Target yet now, but a few years down the line you might regret not having registered for some things that are a little longer lasting and more mature than Target can offer.

quotequeen · July 2010

I think it's important not just where you would shop for yourself, but also where your guests are likely to shop for themselves. If your guests are all Target people and would never think of going to Williams Sonoma, they are more likely to judge your registry and wonder why you think you need such fancy stuff just because you are getting married.

RemyAlexandra · July 2010

It's definitely appropriate! Most people will likely know that you guys love to cook, so it's not "asking too much." I disagree with the previous poster... as long as you have an alternative registry at a place like BBB or Target, people will not judge you.. they'll just think of it as another option. I'm registered at WS, and I know that the stuff there, like the cookware for example, will last me longer and will work for my amount of cooking better than a set of cookware at BBB or target. I would definitely recommend getting china or dinnerware somewhere else than WS though, unless you see a pattern there that you HAVE to have... that stuff is pretty pricey there, and the quality is likely the same as china from other places, just for more money.

HTH!

gottahavashorti · July 2010

If you think your guests would be willing to shop there, go for it. Or go to somewhere like Macy's or BBB that doesn't make people think 'high prices' but still have some high end items, if you think your guests would be more comfortable there.

Register for items in all price ranges from low to high.

I do think that when you get married is a good time to graduate from Target. We decided to graduate from Wal-Mart with a BBB registry so that our items would last for a long time. When your guests are shopping for gifts, they're probably looking to give you items that you'll use throughout your marriage, not just when you're starting out.

quotequeen · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_high-end-young-couple?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:d4d2ccef-55ad-43fd-84f3-d937b7e7cebdPost:f7622cc2-93bb-4f53-bdbd-15a02f9084d0">Re: too high-end for a young couple?</a>:
[QUOTE]It's definitely appropriate! Most people will likely know that you guys love to cook, so it's not "asking too much." I disagree with the previous poster... as long as you have an alternative registry at a place like BBB or Target, <strong>people will not judge you.. they'll just think of it as another option</strong>. I'm registered at WS, and I know that the stuff there, like the cookware for example, will last me longer and will work for my amount of cooking better than a set of cookware at BBB or target. I would definitely recommend getting china or dinnerware somewhere else than WS though, unless you see a pattern there that you HAVE to have... that stuff is pretty pricey there, and the quality is likely the same as china from other places, just for more money. HTH!
Posted by RemyAlexandra[/QUOTE]

Uh, yeah. You might want to read the registry thread that was on the etiquette board the other day.

noodle_oo · July 2010

I wanted to register at WS, but we didn't. We went and looked at the stuff, and it just was too expensive. Some of the kitchen stuff we wanted, like a whisk, spatulas, etc were like $20-$30 EACH. That was just too much. (Who wants to by one whisk and one spatula as a shower present?) Being honest, I would totally judge a friend who registered for such high end stuff, so I just couldn't do it even though I really wanted to.

I also have a friend who registered at Pottery Barn, Crate and Barrel and BBB. She told me almost nothing was bought of the PB registry. Even though she had a mix of price points, I think people just assumed it was too expensive. (and I have to say, I kind of judged her when she got married, which I feel bad about now.)

I believe that you should register for stuff that you would actually buy. Unless you know your family is willing to spend a lot of money.

ledalia · July 2010

We are also a young couple, 22 and 23, and my FI is a chef. I personally think Williams and Sonoma is overrated - you can find many of the same brands and items at other stores for less. We registered at Target but they didn't have the higher end cooking products we wanted so we registered at Bed, Bath, and Beyond. What exactly are you registering for? Because the high end brands like All Clad, Shun, etc are also sold at BB&B. A set of cookware, especially the EXACT same set, isn't going to last longer if it is purchased at WS rather than BB&B. Do some research, figure out what brands specifically you want, and look at BB&B and department stores because I bet they have it for way less.

Karinabobina · July 2010

Like someone said in a previous post, this is your wish list. You can wish for anything you want. No one should judge you based on that. If there are people willing to buy from WS, then by all means, go for it! You only get this chance once in a life time!

KJDOHERTY · July 2010

Register wherever you want, if like others have said, you have various price points. I'm seriously shocked that some people 'judge' just because some places carry higher priced items. Who the heck cares? I personally hate shopping at BB&B but others love it, does that mean I judge because they chose a store I consider a nightmare to shop at? Nope! I think most rational people are just grateful for a bride and groom who provide them with registries at multiple stores so they can pick wherever theyr'e comfortable purchasing a gift from.

RemyAlexandra · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_high-end-young-couple?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:d4d2ccef-55ad-43fd-84f3-d937b7e7cebdPost:86315ca5-e801-49a1-92a9-fd943d2b5793">Re: too high-end for a young couple?</a>:
[QUOTE]Register wherever you want, if like others have said, you have various price points. I'm seriously shocked that some people 'judge' just because some places carry higher priced items. Who the heck cares? I personally hate shopping at BB&B but others love it, does that mean I judge because they chose a store I consider a nightmare to shop at? Nope! I think most rational people are just grateful for a bride and groom who provide them with registries at multiple stores so they can pick wherever theyr'e comfortable purchasing a gift from.
Posted by KJDOHERTY[/QUOTE]

Exactly. If someone judges you for registering for nice things, that's their own problem.

snoangel79 · July 2010

I don't think it's a problem, we are doing Williams Sonoma and Pottery Barn.
As long as you have all price points, I put the buttercup yellow mixer on mine and a $5 dollar pastry crimper. So it's all over the place. Someone bought the mixer!! I was pleasantly surprised (showers next weekend, I've become a registry stalker!!)

You hopefully only get married once!! So yes go to Williams and Sonoma and maybe a cheaper registry too (Target, BBB), but I think now is a time to get good quality stuff. You may have your bridesmaids all pitch in for example and buy a bigger item for you guys.

We are not registering for china though or for pots and pans for that matter (we got a really good set at BBB (Emeril). I asked for alot of baking pans from WS running about $15-25 each and tools for cooking. So I think if you can find a good mix it's fine!

RebeccaB88 · July 2010

You can also choose based on your invite list. I know my family and a lot of family friends will shop at WS, and I used to work there so I know the store well, so I will register there. Many of our couple and single friends, as well as his family, will be more comfortable with the price points ant BB&B, so I will have one there as well. Everything from $5 up will be represented, but about 90% will be under $100. I think that's very resonable.

kpe04379 · July 2010

You should definitely register at WS if you like the things there. Just try to vary the prices on your items. I know when we registered I was hestitant to put some pricey things on our registry, but you'd be surprised at how many people will buy more expensive items or pull together to do so. We are also pretty young- 22 and 24, so we know that our friends probably have mountains of school loans and rent to pay---which is why we really varied the prices. It is OK to register at 2-3 places, too. Keep your guests in mind but don't sacrifice quality---it IS just a wish list!

livelaughlove88 · July 2010

I think that's half the point of a wedding registry. Of course a young couple can't afford nice things yet, that's why other people buy them for you as you set out in your new married life!

melliott09 · August 2010

Age has nothing to do with anything. As a rule of thumb, I wouldn't personally register for anything that I would otherwise not buy.

So if you shop at WS or any other store, register there.

Everyone will have an opinion about everything.....It's ok, as long as you don't allow their opinions to dominate you!

melindajoy1983 · August 2010

I think that the most important thing is making sure you register for items in various price ranges. I have been invited to showers/weddings in which they only registered at one place and all items were somewhat expensive to expensive. The lower priced items felt like you were paying quite a bit for one little item. I ended up spending more than I would have liked to because I wanted to buy things they registered for and that they wanted but it was somewhat irritating. I plan to register at 3 stores with in store and online options in a variety of price ranges. I have some guests who cannot afford to spend a fortune but will probably want to buy a nice gift that they know we will use. Other guests will probably choose to spend more. It is nice to have options.

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