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FMIL doesn't respond

andreamarie77andreamarie77
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Okay, I love my FMIL - don't get me wrong. She's great. But she never answers anything! I send her texts, emails, facebook messages... anything and everything to ask her questions about things I need for the wedding and I can't get any answers!!

Her daughter and daughter-in-law are in the wedding, so I needed measurements (they live out of state) for the dresses - that took me three weeks to get. Now I need to know whether she wants to be included for hair and makeup the day of the wedding along with the bridal party and my mom. No answer.  I also sent her the guest list for her input. No answer.

I'm trying to plan things for budgeting and time restraints, and this is making me a little crazy. If I say anything to my fiance, he jumps on the phone and says "why haven't you answered her?" - like I've been tattling!! So I haven't been saying anything cause I don't want to cause problems. But grrrrr... how am I supposed to keep doing this?
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  • JessicaCrystalGailAmersonJessicaCrystalGailAmerson
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    edited December 2011
    If i were you and txts, and emails didnt work i would go visit her (if you can). she cant avoid you if your three feet away. maybe shes just been really busy. not trying to sound like a bridezilla but if push came to shove id tell your fi to do exactly what hes been doing. tell him to call her and tell her to get the ball rolling..no offense but she probably would do things faster if they were coming from him.
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  • MomJenMomJen
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    edited December 2011
    Did you try the old fashioned way... the telephone?
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  • ellietachiellietachi member
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    edited December 2011
    Agree with PP - she may not be tech savvy or maybe she just doesn't check her emails/FB messages much. Try sticking to the phone instead (and I don't mean text messages).
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fmil-doesnt-respond?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:5f27f236-2afd-4526-b5d7-62a9e3bec0d2Post:601e263e-0b5c-4237-b242-f4a13147bc21">Re: FMIL doesn't respond</a>:
    [QUOTE]Did you try the old fashioned way... the telephone?
    Posted by MomJen[/QUOTE]

    Took the words right out of my mouth!  Why is it that people will use their phone for everything but what they were originally designed for.  Call her up and set up a time to go over everything that you need from her.  Give her a list so she won't forget anything and then let her know when you need things back.  If she still doesn't get back to you with the info you need then let your FI keep doing what he is doing...it is his mother after all.

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  • RiRi157RiRi157
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    edited December 2011
    It's really rude to only e mail and text your FMIL.   You need to grow up and pick up the phone or go see her.
    Do you only text and email YOUR mother.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fmil-doesnt-respond?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:5f27f236-2afd-4526-b5d7-62a9e3bec0d2Post:59d23bce-6e46-47dd-b38c-bc360cd071f2">Re: FMIL doesn't respond</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FMIL doesn't respond : Took the words right out of my mouth!  Why is it that people will use their phone for everything but what they were originally designed for.  Call her up and set up a time to go over everything that you need from her.  Give her a list so she won't forget anything and then let her know when you need things back.  If she still doesn't get back to you with the info you need then let your FI keep doing what he is doing...it is his mother after all.
    Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

    And get your future sisters in law address and telephone numbers. You shouldn't have to go through FMIL to get their measurements.It will make your life easier if you can contact them, directly.
                       
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  • em01092em01092 member
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    edited December 2011
    Get your FI to phrase it less abrasively. He could say, "Hey Mom, FI has been trying to figure out (whatever you need to know). Would you like to be included/can you get us the measurements/whatever?"

    But yeah, maybe try calling her?
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  • Lynne101Lynne101
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    edited December 2011
    Like said above.... How about just calling her? Also... Why can't you call the others? Why does she have to do it? I would assume if they are in your wedding party you at least are on speaking terms with them??????
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