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Different Dad vs. Stepdad Drama

I have an interesting situation. My parents divorced when I was a toddler and we moved in with the man who would become my stepdad when I was about 4 years old. I have always been very very close with my dad and he has always been very supportive of me. However, obviously my stepdad has been there for me for the last 20 years as well. When I envision my wedding day my thoughts of walking down the aisle and having a dance have always included my dad, not my stepdad. Now my family is asking me if I am having my stepdad walk me half way down the aisle to my dad or not? I really don't want that, I personally think it is awkward and tacky to do so (we are having a very traditional Catholic wedding). I don't necessarily want my stepdad's feelings to be hurt but we really aren't very close and I really don't think my dad would appreciate hm walking me to him or sharing walking me down the aisle. I am my father's only child and to be honest I really don't want my stepdad to be part of either event of the wedding. I am already nervous about being on "display" so I am planning for other guests to join us about a minute into the father-daughter dance as it is. I know it seems harsh to not want my stepdad in the "festivities" but there are circumstances I don't want to discuss that have led me to this decision. But I am still feeling guilty about it, since he and my mom are contributing to the wedding, and I know his feelings will be hurt...HELP!

Re: Different Dad vs. Stepdad Drama

  • I don't think it's tacky to have the step-father join the bride and her father halfway, but if it's not what you want, don't do it.

    Perhaps your step day could stand up at the alter and give you away with your dad?

    If you are against that it is your choice, but you just need to be prepaired to explain your decision to anyone in your family who may be offended. 

    As a guest, it would not phase me.  One of my friends got married last year and she walked down the aisle alone.  Her step-father sat with her mom and her dad was not invited at all---they had a falling out when she came out as bisexual (she marred a man) so she didn't invite him.  No one said anything about it
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