Setting up a Honeymoon Registry?

Ihaveapanda · January 2010

So FI and I've decided to set up a honeymoon registry because we have lived together for 4 years and really don't need anything for our house. Plus, we have to pay for the honeymoon.

My question is, how do I go about this? I have no idea where to start.

Thanks!!

AmoroAgain · January 2010

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[QUOTE]So FI and I've decided to set up a honeymoon registry because we have lived together for 4 years and really don't need anything for our house. Plus, we have to pay for the honeymoon. My question is, how do I go about this? I have no idea where to start. Thanks!!
Posted by Ihaveapanda[/QUOTE]

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!! FFS! Okay, I can see when people want extras for the honeymoon, like couples massages or horseback riding-- WHEN THEY CAN ALREADY PAY FOR THEIR HONEYMOON.

I am not paying for your sexfest, and I doubt many of your guests will like that either.

Either set up a small registry for things that you need to have upgraded or "dream" pieces that you would like but would never buy for yourself. OR just spread, via <strong>word of mouth</strong>, that you would just like cash. Honeymoon registries will either charge you or your guests for putting the money in there. What's the point in that?

aggiebug · January 2010

step 1: Do it on one of those websites that takes 10-15% of the money.
step 2: Wait for all the lovely wedding frames and toasting glasses to arrive.

LesPaul · January 2010

Please don't do this. Word of mouth that you would prefer gift cards or cash will work. Or a basic registry for upgrades to some of your existing household items would be tasteful. HM registries are tacky and rude.

MNVegas · January 2010

"Plus, we have to pay for the honeymoon."

Um, join the club so do other couples! I am not a fan of HM registries. You should plan a HM you can afford or wait until after the wedding and see if you received cash gifts that you can apply towards HM. Asking people to pay for your vacation is greatly frowned upon. Set up a small registry of upgrades for people who want to buy you a gift and other guests will probably give cash gifts. Agree w/pp, let people know thru family & friends that you have what you need.

Reminder: registry information of any kind should not be put on any kind of invitations.

demarcosjd · January 2010

We are considering a HM registry but only for extra activities not to pay for the trip. We have looked around and the only one we have seen that doesn't charge a fee is honeyfund.com

I would also do a small traditional registry. You may have some guests that don't want to buy from the HM registry or do not like putting their information online. HTH

Ihaveapanda · January 2010

Haha okay okay, I get it! lol

Totally didn't realize I would attacked.

Ihaveapanda · January 2010

I would have never thought of it as "pay for me to have sex." I think of the honeymoon as a first vacation for a couple. "Pay for me to have sex" would be like asking to pay for the wedding night hotel.

mocha beans · January 2010

Yeah, I've always seen a honeymoon as a sexfest cleverly disguised as a vacation.

That is what the original point of a honeymoon was, for the new couple to spend all their time together so the husband could be assured that if she hopefully got pregnant that the kid would be his.

I'm not a fan of honeymoon registry's because I like to buy an actual gift, or just give the couple cash and they can spend it on their honeymoon without some other company getting a cut of my gift.

Ihaveapanda · January 2010

I'm still torn about it.

I totally don't like the the places that take a cut so I wouldn't do that. All of my family knows we live together and have for years. If it was me I would be fine with giving to a honeymoon rather than buying crystal crap I know that no one would use. I don't care if you have sex on your honeymoon, it's going to happen regardless lol.

Maybe I'll just go for the word of mouth thing.

AmoroAgain · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_setting-up-honeymoon-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:061b1769-61a2-4794-9ccd-08d1dd2ae7d5Post:84db3bbf-b2cb-4866-ac95-55b7ad4d6355">Re: Setting up a Honeymoon Registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm still torn about it. I totally don't like the the places that take a cut so I wouldn't do that. All of my family knows we live together and have for years. If it was me I would be fine with giving to a honeymoon rather than buying crystal crap I know that no one would use. I don't care if you have sex on your honeymoon, it's going to happen regardless lol. Maybe I'll just go for the word of mouth thing.
Posted by Ihaveapanda[/QUOTE]

There is nothing to be torn about! They're are tasteless and gross. If you don't want "crystal crap" then don't register for any. As PP mentioned, register for upgrades for things you could actually use or spread via word of mouth that you want cash. What do you not get!?

H and I didn't go on a honeymoon because we couldn't afford one. We wanted to have the wedding instead, and having a trip can be done anytime. Gah.

dovesweet07 · January 2010

Wow, I'm really surprised at all of the responses. I asked the same question on my local board and got pretty positive responses. I signed up for the honeyfund.com and will also register for some items for the house. I've heard that people actually enjoy getting stuff from the honeymoon registry because its almost like they can contribute to your amazing vacation. They can pay for dinners, massages, day trips, etc. I think the key is to really describe each item in detail so they feel like they are getting you something other that just money.

I think I will do the honeymoon registry and a small regular one, at least if people dont get anything from the honeymoon one, I will get pretty much everything from the traditional registry.

glam70s · January 2010

I'm doing a honeymoon registry. I know that many people on here find them 'tacky', but every one I know thinks it's a great idea. Most of them would much contribute to a great experience for us than more stuff. I really don't think a honeymoon registry is any more tacky than using a traditional registry to upgrade stuff you already have. It's ridicilous to say that your priorities aren't in the right place because you don't want any more junk to fill your house.

I do agree that you need to budget to be able to pay for your own honeymoon, but giving your guests the option of buying you new cutlery or a snorkelling excursion is a good thing, in my opinion. They don't HAVE to use the registry, anyway.

We will likely use honeyfund as well, because they don't charge guests for contributing. I would recommend posting this on the weddingbee.com boards. They've more or less banned the word 'tacky' over there, and people are far more helpful and receptive to what you have to say (read: they won't try to push you to do it their way, they'll help answer your questions and they're much friendlier if they don't like an idea)... These boards are full of great information, but many of the popular opinions found here don't apply to my area (e.g. "favours are not necessary" - they most definitely are where I'm from!)

Good luck with your planning!

lilusa · January 2010

I am using Honeyfund. Everyone in my family and my friends think it is a great idea. We can't really afford a honeymoon. We got offered a once in a lifetime opportunity to have free lodging in Japan and we DO NOT want to say no this as it has been my dream vacation my WHOLE LIFE. Everyone knows this they and they are more than happy to contribute to our dream trip as opposed to giving us MORE towels and plates. To add to that, our parents and my grandparents are always giving us house gifts (recently we got a grill!) I think honeymoonr egistrys depends on your specific situation and your relationship with your guests. As you can see, some peoploe think it is tacky, so some of your guests may think that. I bet those guests will just buy you a gift.

Honeyfund is great because they don't take a fee.

*edit* I just wanted to add that we are paying for our own airfare. So the guests would be paying for activities. We are saving as much as we can for the honeymoon, but any extra help would be appreciated as our wedding budget is $5K and the tickets alone are going to cost around $2K

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