Let me start by saying planning this wedding has been so smooth and stress free, I should have known all of this way coming.
My sister and her ex (my BIL) went through a nasty divorce some years ago. I've tried not to take sides or place blame, it is what it is. Because my BIL has primary custody of the kids, I see him frequently. I rarely see my sister.
Their kids (twins) are our flower girl / ring bearer.
There has been drama with my sister about her ex (my BIL) being invited to the wedding and rehearsal.
Anyway, today's new drama is, she claims to not know that she wasn't allowed a guest (why would I cause MORE drama, she doesn't have a boyfriend, and we don't have space/money for random person). He is not bringing a guest either, and I am not seating them together.
So TODAY, she decides to tell me that she is going to take her kids (my niece and nephew, flower girl and ringer bearer, my godson) on vacation the week of my wedding and none of them will come. Because she can't bring a date.
I tell her to grow up, she fires at me for not being a "sister" to her. So I tell her, fine, briong someone, who are you going to bring? And she tells me it's none of by business. I tell her I'm just trying to understand where she is coming from, and I'm concerned that if BIL is possessive and angry like she states, that her bringing someone is NOT the solution to this problem.
My mom says I should let her bring someone and she will tell everyone to behave or they're out. I told my mom we shouldn't have to tell the GROWN adults how they're supposed to behave.
If it weren't for the kids, at this point, I could care less if she came or not. But I have been a large part in these kid's lives, both before and after the divorce, and it's not fair for her to use them as leverage. At this point, they know about the wedding and seem excited. We picked out their outfits and started explaining what their roles are to them. They're 6. Poor kids.
Don't really expect responses to this, just needed to get it on here and try to get it out of my head.