My fiancee told me that "hypothetically," if his mother wanted to have a shower for me in NJ when we go up and visit next month, who would I want there...?
So, I made a list, with consideration that we are planning a small wedding. Not everyone that usually attends the parties his family has for things like graduations and birthdays will be invited..
HOWEVER! I was clued in the other day by him that his mom has planned a 'nice shindig,' and I have a gut feeling there are people included to the shower that were not on our original list of people being invited to the wedding. (She does not know who is or is not on our guest list for the wedding.)
Sidebar: The wedding is destination, and we know many people that are likely to not travel, so his thought is that they would understand.
WHAT TO DO?? Yikes!