44 an Happy First Time Bride!

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• Tigressss

  

  May 2011

  Thank you for your support! My sister moved in the house with mom to save money for her own house. But my sister is an slob! Love chick but the truth of the matter is yes my sister is an slob! So mom is feed up with the way that chick does keep her room. But honestly since my mom retired all she does is clean up the house that is ALWAYS CLEAN!! But mom feels that it is dirty, baring my sister's room! But the room is clean enough for chick so at the age of 46 chick is not going to change!
  
    Mom said to me I never had an 5k ring!!!! Wow! When you die I want the ring!!!! What mother say's that??????? Tell me is that an supportive women?????????
   

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• Magdala9 member

  

  May 2011

  Enjoy every minute of the engagement.   In our 40s, there are times when we have to tell our mothers NO!  This is true even when we love them and support them.  

  
  

  I got married last September but go so addicted to the process that I am still hanging around. During the planning, each parent (mine and DHs) had a separate meltdown.  

  
  

  
  

  My own mother who I admire and adore drove me nuts.   I finally flat out said "Her first name", the problem with raising articulate and intelligent children is that occasionally they disagree with you.    I generally call her Mom so pulling out her first name shocked her back to her senses.  

  
  

  When the rehearsal dinner finally did come around, We  also thanked both sets of Moms and Dads for letting us have the wedding we really wanted.   We paid for our own wedding; but each set of parents gave us a nice present of money that helped out. 

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• WEEZIE918

  

  May 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_40-plus-brides_44-happy-first-time-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:69dea60c-2319-4015-8380-4a5cc0f18476Discussion:a4468de7-7a94-4f61-97ec-3ad267259d2dPost:11ef4eec-10ff-46ec-b588-b75c41d07070">Re: 44 an Happy First Time Bride!</a>:
  [QUOTE]Enjoy every minute of the engagement.   In our 40s, there are times when we have to tell our mothers NO!  This is true even when we love them and support them.   I got married last September but go so addicted to the process that I am still hanging around. During the planning, each parent (mine and DHs) had a separate meltdown.   My own mother who I admire and adore drove me nuts.   I finally flat out said <strong>"Her first name", the problem with raising articulate and intelligent children is that occasionally they disagree with you.</strong>    I generally call her Mom so pulling out her first name shocked her back to her senses.   When the rehearsal dinner finally did come around, We  also thanked both sets of Moms and Dads for letting us have the wedding we really wanted.   We paid for our own wedding; but each set of parents gave us a nice present of money that helped out. 
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  I am going to have to remember this!!  My mom is driving me nuts and I still have 13 months before the wedding.

  

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• needle&thread member

  

  May 2011

  Regardless, mom is throwing a temper tantrum.  My mother did not come to my first wedding; after spending the whole day with me.  I went home to put on my dress and my mother was supposed to meet me at the church (2 blocks from her house) and she never showed up. 
  
  Thats a 'control' issue!
  
  I wallked down the aisle with my dad anyway and got married...and she was still my mom the next day!  And when I had her first grandchild...OMG..you can imagine!
  
  So get married with your sister and be happy...mom will get over it.
  

  S and CJ
  

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• cshuler member

  

  May 2011

  WOW!!! If your mother did not support you in your first wedding,  do not concern yourself about her not supporting you in this one. Go with the persons that support you and enjoy your engagement.

  

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